8142 Posted June 4, 2010 Share Posted June 4, 2010 My GF and I have been together for 2 1/2 years. We just bought a house 2 months ago and have an 8 mo. old baby and so I was shocked when she asked for a seperation; especially since we had been in counseling and had made progress. We split up because she says that we are not compatible and that we have always had so many problems. I agree that we have had a lot of problems but things have gotten less and less intense and the compatibility thing has to do with her being a business woman and always haveing extra-curricalr activites that I can't always particpate in. So in 3-6 months we are supposed to decide if we are going to make the split permanent or not. This week we had our once a week "special time" together and it went well with no fighting or arguing but she stated that she had a lot of anger and resentment from the problems in our relationship and all the nasty things i;ve said and done during these fights. I was quiet and just kept things kosher, A couple days later I called her to see how our son was doing and asked her the following: "you mentioned the other day that you are still angry and resentful, and I would like to know if thats something you would like to see change|, She said "yes, of course I would". Which gave me hope, but then she read into what I said and continued, "wait a sec, we've only been seperated for 2 weeks and i don;t appreciate you pressuring me like this". She said, "I'm enjoying my time away from the relationship and I dont want to have to go through all this crap again., You might as well consider this relationship over and that there is very little hope for us getting back together, right now". She said, why don;t we just keep seeing each other once a week like we;re supposed to without even mentioning the relationship and seeing if anything happens?" I guess I am just crushed by this and don;t really understand if we are moving ahead not knowing if we;re going to possibly forge a new relationhsip some day or if I am dead in the water in this relationship. Link to comment
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