So lonely

[mayealys]

Hey this is my first time posting here. I'm so lonely. So so lonely. I don't know what to do with my loneliness it hurts so much. I live by myself and always on my days off from work I get incredibly lonely and depressed. I'm sure a lot of it has to do with the fact that I live by myself. I hate living by myself. I want to ask my sister if I can move in with her, but I'm afraid she's going to say no. Ugh. What do you do to combat your loneliness?

[courtney06]

I go to nightclubs, talk to my friends on facebook and make plans to hang out, play SecondLife (if you got a good video card try it), and I belly dance so I end up meeting people when I perform or take classes. So maybe find something you are interested in and take classes, volunteer, etc.

 

Don't be afraid to ask your sister to move in if you're just afraid she's going to say no. You have nothing to lose when you ask her

[itsallgrand]

I live by myself too. I have some good neighbours, and like being involved in my community. That helps me.

Other than that, making plans with friends and family so I have things to look forward to.

Sometimes I cook and invite people over for a home style meal.

 

All kinds of things.

hope you feel better soon.

[winchester3]

When i am lonely/bored (similar things?), all i do is go out and do stuff. All you have to do is take your mind off of being 'lonely' is busy your mind with other things. If i cant think of anything i just start calling up my friends asking if they want to hang out. Or look for a new game to buy, red dead redemption looks fun. You get to live out your cowboy fantasy and do what ever you want in the wild west, i might get it in the next couple of weeks. Write a book or play imagination, no one is ever too old for imagination.

[mca1975]

I totally understand. I used to feel the same some years ago, I know how much it hurts. I lived alone too, for a long time, something like five years and I didnt have a relationship in that time either, just a few casual flings which ended up hurting me. In fact, I used to go through periods of not wanting to go home to my flat, I used to get very upset and just couldn't bare to go home to the emptiness, so I used to stay at friends or families houses for a day or two until I got over it, it was so sad really, they totally were aware of why I was doing it aswell, will always be thankful to them.

 

Now I'm a bit older and gone through some tough stuff, I find I am better at dealing. I am now in a flatshare with two other lonely people, having just come out of a relationship, so it works out pretty well! I can be alone when I want in my room, or I can mix with them when I want company. I haven't had much time to get lonely recently as I have had a lot of family events going on like every weekend.

 

You need to make plans to combat the loneliness and also DO NOT be afraid to confess to someone close about how you feel, it helps enormously, have a cry and you will feel better for a while. I do understand though its very easy to isolate yourself even more when you feel lonely, as your mind starts to shut the world out, don't do it. Be open and honest and confess. x

[doityourself]

Can you have a roommate, maybe another female to have the feeling that someone is there with you?

 

Do you go for walks, get out and explore your neigborhood. Talk to your neighbors, invite girls over for sleepovers.

 

My neice went through the same thing and decided to get a second job just to fill her time, and she actually met alot of people to hang with through her new job.

[all lucky 7s]

I definitely know what this feels like. Of course, the best recommendation would be to call a friend or find someone you can talk to, but I know that isn't always an option. Something that works for me is either listening to some new music or watching a good movie. And I read about a scientific study that showed watching an episode of your favorite television show can sometimes alleviate loneliness, at least temporarily.

 

But these aren't really long-term solutions. The best thing would be to spend your days off at places where you're likely to meet and interact with new people. Maybe you could try volunteering or getting a second job. Anything to keep you busy and around others when you'd otherwise be sitting alone in your room.

[dancingcolors]

Stop living alone. That is what i did. I even sold my place to do it. Living with other people is better than being totally alone. I am still very lonely for a special someone in my life, but at least I have people in my house to eat with, talk to, care about me. i am living with a good friend and his 1 1/2 year old son. I babysit 2 days a week, so I have a constant companion there for 7 hours. Still sad about my ex, and having someone, but it is WAY better than living alone.