online dating

[im sandra dee]

I'm really feeling discouraged by the online dating thing. I'm thinking of giving it up completely!

[savignon]

It's okay to feel that way. Maybe take a break from it and go back to it at a later point if you feel the desire to.

[Kinkz]

I use to think online dating is when two people log onto their computer in the comfort of their own homes and then do things online together. Like watch movies on movie sites at the same time

 

'Ok, page has loaded, im ready, click play on 3'

'1, 2, 3'

'PLAY'

 

'Wait i need a break, click pause on 3'

'1, 2, 3'

'PAUSE'

 

Or play games together online.

 

..Its only when the person wanted to meet me after the SECOND MSN conversation that i realised, this online dating is a compeletely different ball game than what i thought it was. I guess it does work for some people.

[april15]

I used online dating. Met some nice people, met some crazy people, got excited, got bored, got frustrated, had some fun, and eventually met my wife. It was a better option for me than going to a bar or nightclub to meet women. Having a goal and being selective were what eventually made the process worthwhile.

[savignon]

I used online dating. Met some nice people, met some crazy people, got excited, got bored, got frustrated, had some fun, and eventually met my wife. It was a better option for me than going to a bar or nightclub to meet women. Having a goal and being selective were what eventually made the process worthwhile.

 

I had the same exact experience! (except I didn't end up meeting my husband online). Overall, I really enjoyed it and would recommend it. It does get frustrating, but then so does any and all kinds of dating, right?

[adamt]

i've been on it about 6 months. it is very frustrating and can get you down if you let it. Been on about 7 dates. Some went really well and thought it would progress but never did. I've learnt that people will say not what they will always do. eg say they want to go on a 2nd date but then go cold and dont reply. My experience seems to be arrange a date after a few replies before it gets burnt out or bored. If the date goes well then try to arrange a 2nd date within a a coupl eof weeks to keep the momentum going. if they become hard work or stop responding then just move on to next person and begin the cycle again. Everytime I'm about to pack it in someone turns up to get my interest up. Anyone i like i'll wink at them. I still hope someone on there is for me

[artistic1]

I'm new to online dating,, yea bro, these chicks get hit up left and right. Some are married, just looking for an ego boost. The point is, you can't take it personally. It's just another tool to meet chicks. You also have to approach them when your'e out as well. It's a numbers game, some creepy dude's ruin it for the rest of us.

 

My best advice to you: ACCEPT AND WELCOME REJECTION! This way, when you are rejected, you won't care or take it so personally. This way, you won't be afraid to approach a girl you don't know. Odds are, you will catch her off guard and she won't know what to say... So have a game plan... Chicks love confidence, if you don't have any,,,, FAKE IT!

[newwave]

Personally, I don't like online dating. I've met a few great guys, but the majority either weren't my type or weird. Others seemed great and were married. It's not for everyone. For some like myself who often fall for someone once I get to know them, it's probably not good.

[AuthenticAuthor]

I've given up on online dating too. What a massive time waster! Unless you live in a very sparsely populated area, you're better off just going out and joining clubs. For this reason I recommend group-oriented sites like link removed.

[iwishiknew]

I've given up on online dating too. What a massive time waster! Unless you live in a very sparsely populated area, you're better off just going out and joining clubs. For this reason I recommend group-oriented sites like link removed.

 

I agree, online dating sucks and it is a waste of time. Online dating is nothing but a looks game.

[Shallow]

I agree, online dating sucks and it is a waste of time. Online dating is nothing but a looks game.

 

Nonsense.

 

Dating in general could be considered a "looks game" as well.

[Batya33]

I think the people who make a huge distinction between meeting someone in person through an on line dating site as opposed to through another way are the ones who go about it in the wrong way and get disappointed. If you look at it as just another way to meet people, and you meet the person in person ASAP then the way you originally met is only a technical difference. I too got burnt out but more because I was choosing to meet and be in contact with too many people at once. Mnay of my friends - educated, good, insightful, professional people - met their likeminded spouses originally through on line dating sites.

[NightLily]

What is the issue you are having dear?

 

I'm no expert but perhaps we can help.

[im sandra dee]

What is the issue you are having dear?

 

I'm no expert but perhaps we can help.

 

My profile which includes photos isn't generating any emails. I sent out a bunch of emails and haven't gotten any good quality replies. I am so frustrated with the process. Last week, I had connected with a much younger guy and then decided not to get involved with him and now I'm thinking that I may want to see what he is doing. He is the only connection that I've had that I actually like!!!

[NightLily]

What website are you on? I just created a profile on OkCupid as there as so many questions here and just got about 15 messages in the first hour. If you haven't tried there it might be a good idea.

 

None of them really look like quality to me but I haven't been on there long enough to tell. Do you have more than just photos? And what sort of photos did you include?

[Flint_Wood]

OkCupid has been pretty good to me, got a few responses right away, but there aren't very many people in my area. None the less, I started on Monday and just traded numbers with a girl I managed to connect with right away. Not too shabby for maybe an hours worth of work setting up my profile.

 

The nice thing about OKCupid is that with it's matching process, you almost feel compelled to message the people you're compatible with (same for them contacting you). That and it's free!

 

Just a profile tip, I've really found myself being more attracted to profiles that are really fun and show a good amount of humour. I don't really even bother with profiles that are incomplete.

[peanutbutterandjelly]

okcupid is really popular in my area and there are a lot of people on it, but it seems like only the really thin/attractive people are getting messaged. My friend is about 20 lbs lighter than me and she gets swarmed with messages. She'll get 20 messages a day whereas I get 1 maybe every other day. Her profile is barely filled out too.

[NightLily]

okcupid is really popular in my area and there are a lot of people on it, but it seems like only the really thin/attractive people are getting messaged. My friend is about 20 lbs lighter than me and she gets swarmed with messages. She'll get 20 messages a day whereas I get 1 maybe every other day. Her profile is barely filled out too.

 

Don't worry as it isn't all a numbers game. What matters is that you find that one person and if you have your profile filled out I would assume many of them are sending you messages because they have an interest in both your beauty and personality

 

Weight can also always be lost. Character can be much harder to change though.

[CCmedic]

I've only been doing the online dating thing for about two months now but from my experience it's certainly a crapshoot. For instance, I live in a more urban area not as well populated as say, a city. That drastically brings down the selection and though I do get emailed often, most if not all of the girls I either just couldn't be attracted to, or are too far away. I would suggest just using it as another tool in your arsenal and nothing more.

[Shudder]

i just recently deleted my profile since i never got anything but a handful of 1st dates.. but online dating taught me how to deal with rejection well.

[peanutbutterandjelly]

ive only been doing it for a little over a month and NOTHING has come from it. not even really any good conversation.. well, i take that back.. i have been talking to an 18 year old because we share the same obscure hobby, lol. Thats pretty much the only reason I havn't deleted my profile yet.

[peanutbutterandjelly]

Don't worry as it isn't all a numbers game. What matters is that you find that one person and if you have your profile filled out I would assume many of them are sending you messages because they have an interest in both your beauty and personality

 

Weight can also always be lost. Character can be much harder to change though.

 

yes, that's true... that's why im leaving it up and not really thinking about it too much. My friend is awesome and I really hope she finds someone great through online dating. Also, i look at a lot of profiles and there are a LOT of people on there who are bigger than me. I really consider myself "curvy" more than anything which i have found that a lot of people in real life like... but guys online seem to be reallly shallow!

[CCmedic]

well, i take that back.. i have been talking to an 18 year old because we share the same obscure hobby, lol. QUOTE]

 

haha love it!

 

yeah like I said earlier though, the online thing doesn't seem to be so amazing really. Have you girls been trying to contact guys as well though, or just letting them come to you? I'm continiously finding out that girls will look at my page, but not write anything. Fair enough I do it as well. However if I write something witty and fun about whatever is on their page in response to their little "glance", it's kicks off plenty emails back n forth.

[peanutbutterandjelly]

 

haha love it!

 

yeah like I said earlier though, the online thing doesn't seem to be so amazing really. Have you girls been trying to contact guys as well though, or just letting them come to you? I'm continiously finding out that girls will look at my page, but not write anything. Fair enough I do it as well. However if I write something witty and fun about whatever is on their page in response to their little "glance", it's kicks off plenty emails back n forth.

 

look at my thread below this one called, "guys dont respond either".

 

I have been sending out messages. Yesterday I sent out 4 messages and all of the guys have been online since then. Only one responded back to me, and he just answered my question, but didnt ask anything in return or do anything to continue the conversation... so I want to write him back, but im not sure what to say since he doesnt seem all that interested.

[peanutbutterandjelly]

hey ccmedic, question for you... (or any other guy)

 

if you see a girl looking at your profile and she doesnt write to you, do you automatically assume she isn't interested? Cause I find that none of the guys whose profiles I look at ever message me... its always random people ive never seen before.