She broke up with me !!!$#!$!

[epicurean]

What does it mean when someone instantly jumps into a relationship the next day after moving out? I have found out through friends that Corey admits my ex called him the day after we broke up and wanted to go out for drinks. They have been spending every single weekend together and she stays at his house on weekends so I hear...

 

When I talked to her last she we were talking about her and COREY. She stated, "different people cope differently, he was there for me":splat:

[metrogirl]

What does it mean when someone instantly jumps into a relationship the next day after moving out? I have found out through friends that Corey admits my ex called him the day after we broke up and wanted to go out for drinks. They have been spending every single weekend together and she stays at his house on weekends so I hear...

 

When I talked to her last she we were talking about her and COREY. She stated, "different people cope differently, he was there for me"

 

It means she was already heavily involved with him while the two of you were together.

[epicurean]

Well, I was unavailable emotionally/physically because of working so much to pay all the bills, rent, etc. I tried my best and it was overwhelming to support the both of us. She says she was hurt because of the neglect and found a connection with Corey.

 

From what I know, Corey has not had a girlfriend in years. Friends tell me hes not a relationship type of guy. I value her as a friend as I've been friends with her for 14 years but I'm so hurt right now, I can't be there for her... I want to ignore her...

[epicurean]

Its kind of a coincidence that shes doing this because when we got together it was the same thing we spent everyday with each other for months, which turned to years. Before we got together she had just left a guy because she realized he was still in love with his ex. I can't handle this right now... I don't know what to feel!

[FootofGod]

These people pretend like someone was "there for them," but that's rubbish. It's all self-fulfilling tales of romance, beautified by their own naive way of viewing what they have done - trust me, nobody just jumps out there unless they've already made damn sure that they have a place to land. Otherwise, they get burned like 90% of the time. They talked, they flirted, she gave him enough attention to make sure she had a jump, she moved away from you emotionally. Only to us dumpees does it look like a dramatic jump of desperation to a new guy, and the dumpers usually wouldn't have it any other way. They seem to even convince themselves sometimes.

[epicurean]

I know if and when things don't work out for them shes going to come knocking on my doorstep. Hopefully the longer the better so by then I will have moved on and not be attracted to her anymore. That would be bittersweet

[epicurean]

Last night I went to hang out with an old friend I was having a blast just hanging around her and some new friends. At around 3am I get a message: "I love you don't respond im drunk" What the hell is she doing? Why is she doing this to me... I didn't respond of course but why can't she just let me move on.

[epicurean]

Ok the worst possible thing happened to me today. I ran into "them" at a restaurant. I turned right around and left to go somewhere else before she could see me.](*,)

[epicurean]

Finally the snake is out of the bush.

 

Shes busted. She doesn't even know her own timeline of how things worked out between Corey and me finding out she was seeing somebody... she slipped big time.

 

When she broke up with me the first time it took 3 months to heal it was the worst pain i had ever felt emotionally. I started dating a girl named britanny and we became intimate only later to find out she was seeing someone so I cut it off. When my ex came back she asked me about dating and I told her I was not intimate with anyone because I feared she would not want to come back... it was my mistake I shouldn't have lied. I felt guilty for so long so I told her eventually and she was mad! It really was none of her business because she broke up with me... I was moving on.

 

So heres our convo. just now on chat...

 

me: would telling someone you are going to come back and that you love them... just give them a couple weeks to spend more time with the person they are seeing?

is that love?

her: to spend?

i needed time to figure out how to let them go

but after all this , i changed my mind

i needed time for myself

not to spend w. them

ever think of that?

me: and by spending the night over their house is that love?

11:18 AM her: that was before

that hapepned before i told you that

...

me: no that happened the next night

her: no

me: after you said i love you

it didnt add up to me

her: ?

me: so i checked

and sure enough you spent the night at his house

her: ?

checked what?

11:19 AM stalked?

me: i checked on the way home from ahmed's if you were home

her: no no no

oh. right

no. you're right

11:20 AM i was confused

me: and then the next day

her: am i allowed to be confused?

me: you started screaming at me

saying i stalked you

her: no

me: and then you told me that you need to be by yourself

her: thats how you found out i was seeing someone

eitehr way

if you want to go back ther

me: and now you say that you are still hanging out with Corey

her: go by yoruself

11:21 AM bc im moving fwd

if you want to bring up old * * * *

i can bring up brittanny

but that wont get us anywhere now, will it

me: its different jessica

her: no

you lied

you told me multiple times that you didnt sleep w. her

and then 3 yrs alter, you tell me you did

so for 3 yrs, you're a liar

simple

its not different

you LIED to my face

11:22 AM if you can lie like that, so well and convincing, whos to say you wont lie about anything else so * * * * ing well?

me: so that justifies that you lied to me that you loved me and that you were going to leave gary..

and then sleep over his house and continure to see him

her: i was going to leave Corey

me: ?

her: but he was so supportive

and not giving me heartache

it was hard for me to break it off

unlike someone who was making me feel bad for being confused

and not understanding

11:23 AM me: i did understand

but the whole lying part...

and saying you loved me

her: no

you got it twisted

i told you i was seeing someone AFTER you stalked me

me: NO Jessica!

you said i m seeing someone ... give me some time to break it off

i checked that night

you were at his house

11:24 AM her: was it?

* * * * my memory is shot

me: its really messed up

it really is

her: ok then

if you think you've been mistreated

move on

stop talking to me then

11:25 AM are you hanging around me to tell me how i * * * * ed up and its so bad of me to be confused?

me: no

her: you make it sounds like im doing things out of spite

me: i hope you can see

her: bc really

i am confused

i do feel bad

and you only make it worse

11:26 AM and seems like you're around to remind me how my confusion is causing havoc

if this is what you're trying to do, its working

me: i am really just here for you... i enjoy you being around...

her: if you're going to continue this, please, we shouldn't talk

well i dont enjoy being around you

you stress me out

you bring up old * * * *

11:27 AM and when i bring up * * * * about you, you tell me its different

me: how is it different?

WHAT IS DIFFERENT?

i owned up to my mistakes

her: brittany and Corey

fine, im sorry i hurt you bc i was confuse

d

and bc im still confused

you should stay away from me

11:28 AM me: if you don't understand what has happened...

i am really worried about you.

her: dont worry about me

i've been through worse

i can get through this too

you need to worry about yourself

11:29 AM me: ok then...

her: all we've done is fight

bring up old * * * *

really?

is this going to help me/

me: its not old * * * * ... this was recently

11:30 AM her: arent you the one that said the past is the past

me: yes it is

her: alright then

live by it

11:31 AM just bc i still have feelings for you doesn't mean im coming back

i dont trust you

and there are unresolved issues

11:32 AM and you picking at me telling me how * * * * ed up i am for being confused

REALLY isn't helping ONE big

bit

me: neither do i.. confusion is your only excuse

her: excuse?

me: you know exactly what you are doing

her: if thats what you believe

this conversation is over

good bye

[epicurean]

i finally have closure as to why she keeps contacting me and keeps me leading to believe that she might come back. I know you guys are going to say I should have moved on earlier but the truth of the matter is that I was hurting more because there was hope. I wanted to believe her saying that her and corey are nothing more than just hanging out.:splat: Now I know I will never take her back nor will I ever contact her ever again. She is toxic.