Help Please

[northernlight_]

Hello All,

 

I am new here but have been lurking for a while. I have been in a LDR for 3.5 months now. We live 2 hours apart so not really long but long enough that our time is constrained to weekends due to work. She works opposite shifts as me. These months have really been the best times of my life and I love her more than anyone I have ever loved before. We have been talking of marriage already and dreaming of the day we no longer have to say good-bye we can just say good night on Sundays. We talk pretty much non-stop we do a video chat devotions in the morning text throughout the day and then video chat at night before bed after her shift. Plus random phone calls throughout the day as well. She has made me a better person and I have made her a better person as well.

 

Background

I am 29 and this is my first real relationship I have done some dating in the past but was never sure if I was ready.

She is 23 and has had one boyfriend.

We are both saving ourselves for marriage due to religious convictions.

 

Lately I have had this little voice in my head telling me to break up with her and return to my life before I met her. I hated my life before I met her so this makes no sense to me. What can I do. I don't ever want this relationship to end as I do feel that she is my soulmate. We are compatible in every way. Plus we are both clingy so we haven't scared each other away yet which is good as well .

 

Please tell me are these nerves as this relationship gets more serious? Is this my instinct telling me this realtionship is flawed and I don't see it? I don't know what to do and have been an emotional wreck for the past week trying to figure this out.

 

Any help greatly appreciated.

 

Thanks

[SocialStigma]

Sounds like you are scared because you've never had a relationship and you're thinking about the possibility of your first girlfriend becoming your wife. Also the relationship seems to be moving fairly quickly so that could be it too.

[FrenchFries]

Maybe too much too soon? Try backing off the marriage talk a little and just take your time getting to know each other. I'd say that's probably it - you've never been in a relationship and now you're in your first one and it's moving along at lightning speed, which scares you. You want to go back to your safety/comfort zone. Just relax and take it slow. There's no need to rush.

[northernlight_]

Thanks for the reply's

 

That is most likely it I guess.

 

Problem is I was the one that moved things along quickly so I figure if I tell her its time to calm down after she has basically started planning the wedding for the fall it will break her heart.