canzak Posted June 1, 2010 Share Posted June 1, 2010 I have been friends with this guy since we were 10 years old - a brother and sister relationship. We've been through each others relationships for almost 30 years now. He was a good looking man- * * * * * and has always had a huge sex drive, sleeping with hundreds of women including threesomes and wild sex. He typical girl was a two pound blonde stripper - which I am not. Over the summer, by the urging of his mom, we decided to kiss to "see if anything was there" (we've NEVER done anything with each other for almost 30 years). I never even thought of him like that. After the kiss, we realized that we were attracted to each other. I mean really attracted. The first time was a little weird, kind of like sleeping with my brother, but the more we did it, the less weird it was. Along the way, we fell in love with each other and have moved in together. In the beginning there was a lot of flirting, touching and playfulness between us and the sex was good too. We did it about 2 or 3 times a week. It has slowing drifted off and I've questioned him about it many times. I've gotten, "I've had sex so much in my life, I like to space it out" and "I'm having a hard time seeing you as sexual person because I've known you so long as a 'sister'" or "I'm having problems down there". I feel rejected and my need for physical intimacy isn't being met. Just last night we had an argument about it and he said, he doesn't know why he's just not into sex anymore. The thought of it stresses him out. He's trying to rebuild his life again and he's more concerned with his new job, saving money and staying clean (he's been clean from heroin for over a year and a half). He ended up just pleasing me and got up and excused himself to the bathroom. How does a guy go from being a * * * * * between the ages of 18 and thirty-something to not being interested? He keeps saying it's not me... that I'm beautiful, he's attracted me blah blah blah, but really - now at 39, he's not interested? I'm suspicious of a medical issue as he's admitted to "hurting down there" when we've had sex before. I don't think he's cheating because we're always together (but ya never know). Could it really be that he's just not into it anymore? I just don't know if it's worth waiting around to see what happens. I love him and we have such a long history together. I'm entertaining the thought of getting the physical affection from someone else and I've NEVER cheated on a boyfriend before. It's just never was an option. Any ideas on what I should do? Have another long talk about it with no resolution? Hang it up or hang in there? Please help. Link to comment
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