woodst0ck Posted June 1, 2010 Share Posted June 1, 2010 Although I'm doing a lot better after my breakup, my ex still emails me to tell me what she's up to. I usually reply but keep the reply totally neutral and say nothing that be misconstrued as being personal. She hasn't redirected any of her mail and I still get packages and her regular post and every one/two weeks, she sends an email with a little background about what is happening with her and that if she gets a moment, she'll pop in for her post. I've asked her to get the post redirected but she hasn't. This used to upset me quite a bit but I must have grown a callous over those feelings because I'm largely indifferent now. I used to count the hours until she came round but now, I don't know whether I want to see her at all... it's not as though it helps.. When I replied to last week's email, I told her that her post just looked like bank statements so it wasn't worth coming round for that. This week, I get this: .................... Hi Thought I'd best let you know that the vet has got Bob's tablets to me so they won't be coming in the post. Managed to talk Paul into letting me keep him out 24/7 in an old field at the yard so sedated him and just turned him out at the weekend. Giving him a week off whilst my leg heals and then going to try walking him again (her horse kicked her). Hopefully he'll be a bit calmer now he's turned out. Any post for me? If there is I'll call round on Thursday if that's OK. Is it a raid night?(I play WoW) I can't remember when they are now. Could probably do to have a chat and a catch up on things that's all. How are things going with you? Cxxx ......................... Normally, her emails don't express any desire to chat but I don't think there is much point reading anything into that. It would be better if we had no contact but we both own this house and until I find a new job and move out, there will be some contact. When we do have contact, I am very polite but totally neutral... I say nothing of a personal nature whatsoever. I don't even tell her what I've been up to. I hope that I've moved beyond playing games but I am very keen on making it clear that I do not forgive her in the slightest while she continues on her present path. I can't deny that if she expressed a desire to a possible reconciliation, I wouldn't give it some serious thought but I'm not waiting for it. I do still love her but that's not a blank cheque anymore. I do have to take a TV around to my Sister in Law's house which is much nearer to where my ex lives now and it occurred to me that it may be easier to take the post there so it would be easier for her to pick it up so she wouldn't need to come here. I'm a bit concerned that, despite myself, I'm still playing games on a certain level. I'm not really sure the best way to handle this kind of thing. I don't want to burn all my bridges but then I'm not that keen to cross them either.... any advice and insight anyone can offer? Link to comment
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