Getting stuff back from ex's house while not on good terms

[coolgirl]

When I packed up the apartment we took everything to the storage bc nor he or I could afford to pay rent for the storage he took our stuff to his parents house and has put our stuff in the garage. Basically its 4-5 personals boxes I have. And other stuff I have like basically some presents that was given to me during the wedding. The reason those weren't taken to my parents house was because the garage was filled up with alot of boxes that there was barley any room for my stuff so thats why I told him to move the boxes to his folks house for the time being.

 

And now sense this incident with his mom has happened if no one has read it here is the thread as to what happened.

After the confrontation of this situation we are back no longer talking to one another. And now not on good terms with one another to a point were I cant stand him nor he can stand me.

 

I've really really have a hard time discussing these with him its like he doesn't want to listen to anything while I'm asking for the belonging that belongs to me. The rest of the other stuff he could get rid of because those are nothing but dishes and glasses and basically kitchen utensils.

 

At first I wanted to hire movers to go pick up all the boxes and bring it over to my folks house and get rid of it myself. My mom said why pay 70-80 bucks to movers just to bring the stuff you dont want and have him get rid of it himself. My mom also said that i'm sure the last thing you want is that for his mother to say something else about you and thats what i'm trying to avoid not to be humiliated again. Its been over 2 years I've been bragging about my stuff and still cant get them. Everytime I bring up the subject of wanting my stuff back he's always coming up with excuses that he doesn't have time or would do them later and never does. I'm not going over to his folks house because right now I cant stand those people at the momment.

 

I myself dont want to be there going through my own boxes like I said i want nothing to do with those people but my ex has to open some of the boxes to see what's what and the stuff I need. Cuz when I packed up the apartment i put few stuff in different boxes and not all together so there scattered. And now that were no longer on speaking terms it makes it harder trying to communicate with him. And last night we got into an argument again and I cant deal with this anymore.

 

How can I get my stuff back while were not on good terms ?

[pumpkinmoon]

I would email or text him telling him that you want this matter resolved and you want to tie up this loose end. Ask him to kindly sort through your things and perhaps arrange a time for him to leave them outside the garage. All you then have to do is go pick them up. Maybe take a friend with you or your mother for a bit of moral support. One way or another, you need to get these things back.

[coolgirl]

I would email or text him telling him that you want this matter resolved and you want to tie up this loose end. Ask him to kindly sort through your things and perhaps arrange a time for him to leave them outside the garage. All you then have to do is go pick them up. Maybe take a friend with you or your mother for a bit of moral support. One way or another, you need to get these things back.

 

Oh believe me you have no idea how hard i've tried to met ends with this. The last conversation I had him was the day before I called him and told him nicely I wanted my stuff. I talked to him nicely and crappy too but nothing. I told my dad that I want him and my brother to go pick up my belongings. My dad said have him load up his car and bring it to the house. I dont even want him near the house at all. I dont want him around here and my dad is making it difficult by dragging him here when I dont want him here. There is no way in the world I'm going to make a fool out of myself by dragging myself out there and being said something ugly again thats the last thing I need.

[mca1975]

I would go round the house and demand it, or you will call the police. They've got your stuff, that's theft. Wouldn't have that at all.

 

Ignore mothers, they are biased. My ex's mum still thinks he's her little boy and needs protecting when he's actually 37. Very sad.