I think I can get her back!

[soul12]

Ok well, I was recently dumped in March because my ex was having "up and down feelings" towards me. She told me that on some days she would really be happy with me, and then other days she wasn't happy at all. This could have been due to our constant arguing over little things and the fact that I had to move 4 hours away from her. In Feb during my birthday she came down to visit my family! My whole family loved her and I loved the fact that she came down to meet my family. We were together for a little over 3 years and absolutely LOVED this girl. However, a few weeks later she told me that she just couldn't do it anymore. Apparently the LDR was hurting a lot more then she was letting on and she dumped me. Of course I did the begging and pleading for a couple of weeks, and there were times when she said that she just wanted to think about it. She even told me that there would be a good chance of us getting back together. However, she finally ended it by saying that the distance was too much and that she just wanted to leave it alone (she does not want to be in a relationship right now). She really insisted on being friends and kept telling me how much of a great guy I was. I finally told her that I love her way too much to just settle with being friends and told her that I needed time. She agreed and told me that I am a genuinely great guy, and that any girl would be happy to be with me, and that when she said she loved me she truly meant it. A month goes by and I was visiting some friends near her, and asked if she to catch up. She agreed and even suggested a place and time for us to meet. We hung out for like 5hrs talking, and flirted a bit. I even told her that in the summer I was going to be moving back in the area. I then asked her if she would be interested in connecting again and she told me that the break up was still to fresh for her (its May and we broke up in March). I agreed and told her that since I had a month of healing myself maybe she could want that same time to heal herself. She thanked me for being honest with my feelings and suggesting that she take time from me to heal.

 

I understand that I should move on, which I will but I can't hide the fact that I still really love her. When she met with me she told me how much of a good and decent guy I am and that I am a respectful guy. Ladies here, I really did nothing to be a douche to her in the relationship, and she never did anything terrible to me. Do you guys think I have a shot at getting her back. (Please don't just answer 'MOVE ON!' or 'Shes an ex for a reason') Thanks

[WaiKru]

It sounds to me like it depends on where you're living. She seems to be effected by you moving far away (as most people in relationships are), but then again you mentioned you might be moving back near her. If you do end up moving back I think you have a legit shot at getting her back. From what you said, she was flirty and giving good signals when you hung out so that's a very good sign that there are still feelings there for you.

[soul12]

Does anyone else have opinions?

[mylovemyway]

It seems like reconciliation is definitely possible in your case. What kind of chance you have, no one can say. You probably have a better idea than anyone else. Are you each other's first loves? Is distance really a huge factor or could there be other things you don't know about, such as another guy? Does she have a desire to see other people? Are you both looking to settle down in life? Does she have feelings that even though she loves you, she knows deep down that you're not "the one?" I've been in that situation before, and that is why I ended things with someone who I really cared about. I just couldn't see myself being with him in the future. In that case, there was no chance of reconciliation. I'd say give it time. If she really loves you and it's meant to be, she will come back. You have made your feelings known already so she doesn't have to worry about being rejected.

[soul12]

She was my second love and I was her first. She told me that out of all the guys she's ever dated I am the only one that has ever been able to keep her attention this long. I do not know if distance is THE factor, besides I am moving near her again (I even told her that). At some point I thought that she dumped for a particular guy but then found out that she stopped talking to him because he was a jerk to her. During the beginning of our breakup she said that one thing that she was afraid of, was me moving back near her and it be too late for her. It sucks cause the more I think back in the relationship, I didn't treat her bad. She obviously is aware of that. As far as being the one, she wrote a list of things that she really liked about me and said that she knows I would make a great father and husband. She said she isn't confused, and that she doesn't have feelings for me anymore (which I kinda doubt).