going from dating to a relationship

[amyb]

I have been dating this guy for about 6-7 weeks now, and it's been going really well, the only real problem is that it is long-distance (about 2 1/2 hours away) so we don't see much of each other (we have gone on a few dates) and we talk on the phone.

We have a great time together, there's a lot of chemistry, and we have had sex (so if you're against having sex before establishing a solid relationship, don't judge please).

Also, we've both pretty much made it clear that we are looking for a serious relationship, but we haven't had a discussion about our current situation, i.e. are we headed for something serious, are we exclusive etc. I'm wondering if it is maybe too soon for that, since we have only been dating a few weeks, and because of the fact that we are long distance.

How long is long enough to wait before bringing this up? I know time can vary for different people, and it also depends on the circumstances, but is less than 2 months too soon to ask what our status is? (which really means, how he feels about me). I really like him and I don't care to see other people, and although I know he likes me too, I don't know what he's thinking about the future.

Thanks in advance for your responses

[orchidrose]

It's been about two months - two months is usually when I bring it up if he hasn't. I think that's plenty of time to decide if you want to enter a relationship with someone. Doesn't mean it's serious and you'll be together forever, but you can be committed to each other.

[amyb]

Ok, but how do I bring it up? What exactly should I say? I've never done this before, I've only been in a couple of other relationshps and the guys have first brought up the topic, so I don't know what/when to say something.

[orchidrose]

Ok, but how do I bring it up? What exactly should I say? I've never done this before, I've only been in a couple of other relationshps and the guys have first brought up the topic, so I don't know what/when to say something.

 

The last time I did it with a guy, were in bed talking and laughing and there was a lull in the conversation, so I just said "so, I really like you, and I think you really like me.. are we doing this boyfriend/girlfriend thing now?" He said we were, and that was it.

 

I know it's super awkward, but if you just bring it up casually and positively, it should turn out fine!