PaGuy23 Posted May 31, 2010 Share Posted May 31, 2010 Hi everyone, First time poster hoping to gain some insight into a recent incident I've had. A girl and I were friends for 3 months we met through my group of friends, we hit it off instantly and instantly became good friends. After a month of knowing each other she was texting me, all day, everyday, this continued for 2 months. She would talk to me about every minuscule detail of her life and would tell me how funny I was and was always really interested in what I had to say. We'd also hang out a couple times a week in our group of friends. So one night we were hanging out at her house in our group of friends and everyone went to bed but she and I stayed up until four in the morning talking and cuddling. I assumed she liked me and I developed feelings for her and told her I liked her and liked spending time with her. She said she liked spending time with me too. Then things were normal for a week, and then she spent an afternoon with her friends and stopped talking to me like normal. A day or two later our friend tells me, she was not expecting it and didn't see our relationship like that. So I expressed that our friend had told me this and told her I didn't want to lose her as a friend. She said everything was fine then started giving me the silent treatment. During this silent treatment she would give me one word answers and not talk to me like normal. I asked her again to express her truthful feelings to me because I really didn't want to ruin our friendship. Then she completely stopped communicating with me and would not answer me, by any means. So after that her friend tells me "She doesn't want a relationship, she might be moving". Which I believe she should be able to express to me herself. Our friend also tells me She's ignoring me because "I won't let it go and I'm annoying her." When the entire time all I asked was to talk about it, resolve it and to move forward as friends. I contact her and apologize and state I wish we could talk about it to resolve things, because again I didn't want to lose her as a friend over it. Our friend is a male and real immature and she has know him since highschool. He tells me to " just stop talking about it" which I know is bad advice because it solves nothing. I tell him no, she should be able to answer me and give me closure on the subject, so we can move forward. A week later I get texts from her stating that "she misses me, and I was the funniest guy she knows and she wants to make a relationship work." Two hours later her friend from high school texts me from his phone and tells me she gave him his phone and it was all him and a huge joke and they were letting our entire group of friends read the messages I was sending back. I respond that it's not ok to exploit someones emotions and I wouldn't do that to my worst enemy and I send her the same text. The very next day her same friend texts me pictures of her kissing two other guys that are frowning and making baby faces in the picture. This girl is 25 years old and has a B.A. degree is psychology. I don't understand why anyone would be so cruel to me, when I'm just trying to be nice. I guess I'm just looking for some positive insight into this situation other than "what doesn't kill me, will only make me stronger." Link to comment
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