gravity Posted May 30, 2010 Share Posted May 30, 2010 Last night while lying in bed I finally realized WHY I've had such a hard time trusting my GF of two years. For two years I've had trust issues with this girl, not something I've had occur in other relationships. I know part of it comes from within myself, since my last relationship ended . . . poorly, with someone I trusted/loved setting me up for heartbreak ON PURPOSE. But I'm a resilient person and that single action could not explain my current insecurities. But I often had/have an uneasy feeling about current GF even though we live together and do love each other. (full disclosure here: she DID have an emotional affair with an ex a few months back, I forgave & we're working on it was best we can but it sure didn't help the situation, and I've taken a huge step back to analyse our relationship and think things through) I know many of you think I'm silly for believing she cares but she really has made some pretty big sacrifices over the past two years so we could be together, not the actions of someone who is just using me. Anyways I realized last night that a major obstacle in my trust in her is the stories she's told me about when she was single and how she would hook up with guys (some of who had GF's and a fiancée in one case) knowing they were in relationships and doing it anyways. I guess what bugged me was the fact that she showed no type of remorse or guilt about any of it. I mean how does that reflect on ones opinion of monogamous relationships? It also reeks of psychopathy . . . not that I'm calling her that by any means but she does struggle with Bi-polar disorder (or used to, she hasn't exhibited any of that behavior in well over a year and a half since she stopped her meds and I taught her a bunch of coping mechanisms) I feel like I want to talk to her about this but I'm not sure it will help really . . . maybe I should keep my realizations to myself. Thoughts? Link to comment
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