There Should Be Hope!

[Shakeybones]

ok so im 21 years old, and a virgin (sucks ass but not too bad) I have made out with girls before and stuff but i cant seem to get a girlfriend. Its Frustrating too because i talk to many diff girls we hang out but it doesnt seem like i can get them to relationship stage. Im Not a bad looking guy, id say ( im hot) but you know lol. I kind of have alot going for me, School, Career, playing hockey and riding motocross. But at the same time, Its like why am i single, How come i dont have somebody on my side that actually wants too be with me. Its kind of depressing because i have one friend who actually had the stars align and a girl basically just fell into his arms. my other buddy is a man and practically rubs it in my face, (ed note: his text messages from girls are insane they practically are sexting him and getting off on his name) Multiple women at that 2. I do know that i do not want to be a pimp or anything like that, i just want 1 girl you know.

 

Sometimes i feel like time is running out to lose my v-card, but yet thats not even my main reason for wanting a relationship. i honestly just want to feel that other happiness that i have never felt before and it just feels hopeless.

 

That last girl that i liked alot.. some of my so called close friends, so my heart is a little bit colder in the trust area but i guess that would be normal..

 

All in all is there hope at 21?

 

(ed note: Grammer no pun intended)

[jimbojones100]

Dude, you're only 21. I've found that when I press to make things happen, it never does. When I back off and stop worrying about getting a girl, that's when they come.

 

It'll happen eventually. Just go out and socialize, and chat with girls, be nice, don't be an ass. That may get you one-time ass, but if you want a real relationship, you need to find girls who share similar interests as you.

 

Finding a girl interested in hockey may be hard in socal. You may be better off coming up here to Canada lol.

[Xylitol]

your not seriously doing enough effort to get a girl. If you really want a future with a girl (not just sex), then keep going for gold. Choose the right one for you , don't go with a girl with the expectation that everything will work out, reality is that a girl can pack her bags and leave anyday. Always have a life of your own to fall back onto if things don't work out.

[Shakeybones]

Xylitol, What do you mean? i take girls out hang out with them and have a good time but im confused on what you mean not doing enough.. One Problem i do know is that i hold my feelings close to me and that i usually don't tell a girl i like them because. i do not know if they care or if they feel the same lol...and i have alot of things goin on in my life postively so the fall back thing is covered lol