ranchycowgirl Posted May 29, 2010 Share Posted May 29, 2010 Just a fair warning, this is going to be very long, so please bear with me My boyfriend and I have been together 9 months. He and I are very much in love, and I do know that because of the way he'd treat me and speak to me. He was very genuine. I gave him everything I've ever had to give. Two weeks ago he started having issues with his phone, which I do know to be true because I've seen it. He went an entire week without speaking to me. I had tried calling him and texting him and never got any response. I could tell on the 5th day of "no phone" that his phone WAS on and he was just not answering. I decided against the odds that I would drive to his house and surprise him with a nice dinner. He came home drunk and I was talking to his friends. His friends like me, I wasn't unwelcome sitting there. Anyway, he wouldn't look at me and simply said "hola..." I stood up and asked him to come outside with me real quick. He brushed me away and sat down smiling saying "I don't want to go out there, it's cold out!" I said please, just real quick. He kept denying. His friends were all shaking their heads in disgust at this point. One of them finally said "You really need to go outside man" He said "why? She's crazy!!" I was shocked that he would say such a thing to me. After his friends kept saying for him to just go outside he did. He looked at me and said "this isn't working. you all the time. you called me so many times today! We need a break." I said I called him because I knew his phone was on, and why hadn't he just picked up ONCE or sent me a quick text saying he'd call me later. That's all that needed to be done and I'd be fine. I never asked anything of him other than to speak to him on the phone for 5 minutes whenever possible, and a text. Because, up until this point he had called me everynight, talked for hours, and would always text me in the morning. That's all I ever needed was a little communication. He then looked at me and told me I needed to go home. I got in my car and drove the 2 hour drive home at midnight. We didn't speak for 3 days. I called him and we spoke for an hour and a half about what was going on. He brought up old fights that we had already resolved and he'd apologized for in the past. He had a picture of a nude model on his phone and I asked him to take it off. He did, and apologized for it. He then brought up another time that he hadn't spoken to me all day on a friday when we had made plans for the weekend. He said that he was roping somewhere. So I went there and he agreed that is what he wanted me to do. So now he's telling his friends that I'm crazy because of the way HE treated me. Of course I reacted to what he was doing, but I never asked anything of him. I had finally agreed in my mind to the break because then maybe he'd learn to appreciate me. I then got on facebook only to find he'd changed his status to "single." I had told him if he wanted to break up just to tell me. He said he didn't want to. I asked if he still loved me and he said yea. I know he loves me, I know what we have isn't all just a lie. He just lets his "pride" get in the way. He doesn't want to be seen as the guy who's girlfriend makes him do things. Which the only thing I have asked him not to do is have a naked chick on his phone out of respect for me. So... is this hopeless? I really think he'll realize what he's lost and try to come back to me. I have no idea what I'd do though because things would have to change to make me trust him again. I love him more than anything and I know he loves me but I don't know if he scared himself and now has to just be an or what... but I made the mistake of trying to contact him just because I want to know what the hell is going on... of course no response. How am I supposed to deal with this? I'm in such a hard spot. I'm in a new state where all I have is a job. I have no friends here. I don't know what to do. I just want him to wake up, because he said he wanted to marry me and be with me forever. He meant it. He doesn't sugar coat anything and I know he never says what he doesn't mean. Is it common that young guys, 21, would push away someone they love because they get scared? I'm so hurt. Sorry for the babbling but all my thoughts are jumbled. Link to comment
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