Is he in love, lust or is it too soon to tell?

[Sempiternal]

I've been...seeing...this guy since the end of January/beginning of February. We hang out or go on a date maybe once a week or sometimes even once every two weeks, which has a lot to do with our schedules and the fact that he seems hesitant to actual 'ask' me to do anything. He usually suggests doing something rather than asking. Or I'll ask him.

 

When we are together (lately it's mostly been chilling at his place, though he does take me out to movies) he pays for everything. Also, he'll randomly do cute little things like kiss my shoulder when we're cuddling or rub my nose with his. He's even fed me (shared some melted brownies from mcdonalds). He's never pressured me to do anything. He seems to put pressure on himself if he thinks he didn't do well during a certain position and will say so, almost like he's apologizing.

 

He does bring up things like school, my plans for the weekend are etc.

 

Yet, I only hear from him a couple times a week. If he 'suggests' hanging out it's maybe a day or two in advance. We've never done anything on the weekends because he either drives home (7 hours away) or goes into a different city where he has friends (1-1 1/2 hours away).

 

So my question is, is it lust or could he possibly have feelings for me...but maybe scared how I will react? (I know to know for sure I need to ask him) Or should I wait it out and see?

[jimbojones100]

I think after that amount of time, if he still is interested in you and you hang out and do those cute things together, I'd say he's very much interested. I don't know if "love" is the word to use at this point, but quite possibly.

[RedDress]

Yet, I only hear from him a couple times a week. If he 'suggests' hanging out it's maybe a day or two in advance. We've never done anything on the weekends because he either drives home (7 hours away) or goes into a different city where he has friends (1-1 1/2 hours away).

 

This is normal for me at the beginning of a relationship (although I am not busy every weekend... but I am busy a lot). How about asking him if he wants it to be exclusive? Why not try for the "girlfriend" label?

 

I think that's the next logical step and you can take it from there. It will also be a good gauge as to where he is in the relationship.

 

I'd stay away from that "love" word, though... that's dangerous territory at this stage, IMO.

[Sempiternal]

I wasn't really meaning love love...more or less if it was just a long term booty call or if it had more potential than that.

 

I am planning to ask where he sees it going next time we are together.