givinggirl Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 This is such a long story, so I'm going to give the short version (which will still seem long) and you guys can ask any questions along the way. Known shy guy for 7 years. I met him while dating my ex. During that time, he barely spoke to me and was always nervous around me. Fast forward 3 years, break up with bf, move out, shy guy shows up to help me move out. Fast forward 1 year, mutual friend starts trying to play matchmaker with me & shy guy. We start communicating through texts. I begin looking for house, buy a house (happens to be down the street from shy guy), we hang out a couple times in a group, he's next to me the whole time, buying me drinks, walking me to my car, hugging goodnight. Went out to celebrate my house purchase, he invited a bunch of my ex's gang, he paid the bill. Time to move and he takes a day off work to help me move without me even asking or knowing. NYE, go to our mutual friends and he asks me to dance, we dance for 4 hours straight fun dancing and very close dancing. From there on it's been flirting when around each other and texting in between. The whole group of friends were talking about us (even in front os us) about us getting together. That wasn't good cause we are both shy and don't like to spot light. I did ask him to be my date for 2 weddings, he declined one cause he had to work and the second he said he's just not comfortable. I asked him if he was interested or not and he responded sorry if I gave you the wrong impression. At the time, I didn't believe his answer and thought he just said it cause he's shy, scared and nervous, but I backed off anyways, just in case. We went camping, I rode a quad for the first time, I was slower than everyone, I was told that he was very worried and wanted to go look for me and everyone said I was fine. I was fine and after that, he made it a point to ride behind me the rest of the time. Yet, we didn't really speak the who weekend. There are so many other instances of him flirting with me, hugging me and picking me up, teasing me, etc. He even gave me the sweetest birthday card about sharing a journey and signed it Love him. Fast forward to 2 weeks ago, we go to a party, at the end of the night, he leaves with me and then we hugged goodbye, he turned around and asked if I wanted to hang out. The first time he ever initiated anything. I was surprised and I said yes. So, we went home and then he came to pick me up on his quad. We walked to the bar, he bought me a drink and pulled his chair up to be right next to me. He made a comment that night about being single for 12 years and I saw him looking at me when he said it, as if he wanted to see my reaction. Then, he said, he was going to head home, so I said I would walk back with him. He joked with me on the way home about over the winter when we were walking that road and I was holding onto his arm so I wouldn't fall on the ice. He ended up falling, so he said how I didn't even hold onto him and was giving me a hard time. I put my arm around his and said I will hold on to you now...then defended myself and said that he's twice my size, I couldn't hold him up, but that I had lessened his fall. He was just laughing, then gave me a hug goodnight and left. Fast forward to yesterday. I hear from my girlfriend, that our mutual friend told her that shy guy is kind of dating someone cause he showed up last weekend with a girl when they were hanging out. I don't know what to make of this. I don't know if he's dating this girl, or who she is, but it just all makes no sense to me. He's very private and doesn't talk to anyone about things, he keeps to himself. I can't imagine that he just met this girl and brought her out with his friends. It's not his MO. I just am baffled and I don't want to jump to conclusions. Naturally, I'm upset by this because I really like this guy and I thought we had a connection, even if it was very slow moving. Thoughts? Link to comment
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