After reading all the virginity threads... a thought:

[theStig]

Are there any women out there who are in their late 20s or 30s and are virgins?

 

Whenever I think of a "40 year old virgin" I always think of a guy. "It has got to be a guy".

 

Why is it that there are more male virgins out there than female?

 

Or is it that females just don't advertise it or they LIE when they say they're not virgins?

 

Is it simply because when you're a girl and all you have to do is to sneeze in order to get laid?

[waveseer]

Almost all adults can find a sexual partner if they really want to. It may mean they have to overcome some personal challenges to be ready socially, but it's hardly ever impossible.

 

That being said, women tend to be more sought after for sex than men and overall they tend to have more developed social skills.

[theStig]

Almost all adults can find a sexual partner if they really want to. It may mean they have to overcome some personal challenges to be ready socially, but it's hardly ever impossible.

 

That being said, women tend to be more sought after for sex than men and overall they tend to have more developed social skills.

 

It doesn't have to do with being social or not. I know plenty of antisocial girls who've done it. It has to do with having boobies.

[waveseer]

It doesn't have to do with being social or not. I know plenty of antisocial girls who've done it. It has to do with having boobies.

 

I thought I covered that in the "more sought after" part.

[90_hour_sleep]

It doesn't have to do with being social or not. I know plenty of antisocial girls who've done it. It has to do with having boobies.

 

i fear there may be some truth to this.

 

never underestimate the power of boobies.

[Celestialagape54]

Yes, I am not but my best friend is 25 and a virgin. In fact she has not even had her first kiss yet.

[Lamour detruit]

I do think the main reason is simply..it is a lot easier for females to find someone to have sex with. One can debate that all you want, but it is the mere truth.

 

Also, there is not as much of a stigma attached to a female being a virgin, so you rarely see it mentioned anywhere unless it is a side not..or a mention of it before she gets into a sexual relationship. It seems for females it is more of a choice, while for males it is more of a result of not being able to get as far.

 

That said, I have no doubt there are thirty, and forty year old female virgins..for whatever reason..either religious, has rejected it for personal reasons, or whatever you can think of. I would dare say that number is far below that of the forty year old male virgin, however.

[RedDress]

It doesn't have to do with being social or not. I know plenty of antisocial girls who've done it. It has to do with having boobies.

 

Heh. Somehow the word "boobies" drains all the seriousness out of a conversation. LOL!

 

Yeah... I've known a few.

 

One was 30-ish last I saw her. She was a little weird, not very attractive (had these moles/flaps of skin on her face with hair growing out of them) and she was very naggy/motherly with everyone. And sometimes spoke like a baby. And had a strange (unnatural) obsession with kids. And thought she was entitled to Fabio. And had very strange hobbies. She was strange.

 

One virgin I know is 32. She is 'normal' and the sweetest girl I know but is completely asexual. She simply has no interest in dating, period.

 

One girl I knew was 25 when she lost her virginity. She was also 'normal' and actually, she's really, really pretty. She's quite religious and has a strong moral character.

 

There can be many reasons for someone to be a virgin later in life (male AND female). Probably the same reasons accross the board.

[meteorstrike]

because when females are virgins, it makes them sexier and then they lose it faster.

[botticelli]

Guys aren't normally as picky as girls when looking for sexual partners

Therefore girls have more opportunities.

[randomgirl59]

*sits back and watches this turn into another thread about how life is oh so easy for women and how everything is somehow their fault*

 

To answer your question, I have a few female friends mid 20's who are still virgins. I dont know why exactly as I never asked them. But I do know they aren't religious and they aren't antisocial, but they also aren't sterotypically girly and dont care about clothes/makeup/hair. They are also fun, easygoing girls who are fun to hang out with. Many guys would like to believe its so much easier for girls but the truth is you pass girls like this everyday and completely overlook them then complain about shallowness. Oh sure, you'll say they can get sex simply cause they're girls, but from who? some sleazebag who'll put it in anything? Some guy who will have sex then disappear afterwards? Men can do the same. Hire a prostitute or go find some easy girl at a club.

 

because when females are virgins, it makes them sexier and then they lose it faster.

 

yea maybe if they look like some sweet, pure blonde in a white sundress.

 

Now the 30 year old with hairy moles/skinflaps on her skin that RedDress mentioned? not bloody likely.

[pinkelephant]

well my english teacher is a virgin (most likely lol, she didn't explicitly say) but we're close since i was like 10 and she knows my cousins really well. we all studied under her. umm, we used to have random heart to heart's and she's really lonely which makes her come off desperate at times and weird. She's actually very intelligent, relatively good looking, but unapproachable. She's kind of judgmental, not really easy going, but has a biiiig heart and is one of my and my cousins' biggest influence.

 

 

anyway, here's my theory:

girls have the whole reputation business to worry about. they "give it up" while guys "get it", so most guys end up not getting laid even though they want to... since girls are more defensive. when girls want it, guys aren't defensive so less likely to say "no".

[MD Geist]

Where do I meet these older female virgins?

 

I seem to be coming accross women with a lot of mileage on them.

 

But oh well I'm no longer look any more.

[friendsoulmate]

I am a 40-year-old virgin man. The problems I face with dating today, are no different than when I was in my 20's and 30's. I did not have a steady job until my late 20's. I have seriously been wanting to settle down with a wife for the past 12 years. The reason I am a virgin today, is partly by choice, and partly by circumstance.

 

By choice: I have been picky, because I didn't want to welcome and invite the general public of women into my life, such as hitting-on and picking-up a woman stranger at a bar, because of her looks and to see how far I could go with her. Even though I have a sexual desire, this approach would not fit my values, beliefs, or my personality and it makes me feel uncomfortable and sleazy.

 

By circumstance: I have been and I am still hoping to achieve getting to know a woman as a friend first, with a growing romantic interest, which leads to talking, hugging, and kissing and then a marriage proposal. I don't know where, how, what best to say, or what circumstances I would encounter with this type of meetup(I do have a profile at link removed, by the way.), which would follow a course of action, such as this.

 

When I was younger, I would value and desire drama and romance just as much as my desire for sex. But now that I am older, I value and desire more of the sex part. I believe drama and romance can be faked and is a lot about writing, fantasizing, story telling, TV & movies, and is often not a true description of a real relationship. I also think that when a person grows older with an unfulfilled want, need, and desire and later in life, fulfills this want, need, and desire for whatever it is (i.e. Love, Romance, Sex, Companionship, Commitment, and Marriage) then it doesn't seem to matter as much when you are older, as compared to fulfilling a need when one is younger. I think my single life has become a bad habit, because I don't want to live with an unfulfilled need. I have been lonely for a long time and have suffered from some depression from this loneliness--an unfulfilled need, which has affected my ability to sleep well and concentrate on my office work. Ideally, I think needs should be fulfilled at the right time in one's life, but this is just an ideal, because not everyone experiences an easy start in life, after high school, which includes myself.

[Sparkly Eyes]

Where do I meet these older female virgins?

 

I seem to be coming accross women with a lot of mileage on them.

 

But oh well I'm no longer look any more.

 

Move to Virginia.

[friendsoulmate]

Where do I meet these older female virgins?

 

I seem to be coming accross women with a lot of mileage on them.

 

But oh well I'm no longer look any more.

 

My mother told me I could find these female virgins in church groups. If you happen to meet a true female virgin in a church group, she is usually picky and hard-to-get and not easy-to-get. Young, beautiful, athletic, goal-oriented, college student man would interest any young woman. I wasn't all of those things. What strategies could I have used to spark her interest in me?

[pinkelephant]

Where do I meet these older female virgins?

 

I seem to be coming accross women with a lot of mileage on them.

 

But oh well I'm no longer look any more.

 

lol, mileage? maybe that's your problem.

[Cognitive_Canine]

I know one. 40's and extremely heavy set. She's extremely desperate.

 

Also, I agree with Pinkelephant. "Mileage"? And you boys wonder why we don't want to have sex with you. You seem to think it lowers our value.

[theStig]

I know one. 40's and extremely heavy set. She's extremely desperate.

 

Also, I agree with Pinkelephant. "Mileage"? And you boys wonder why we don't want to have sex with you. You seem to think it lowers our value.

 

Well doesn't it get loose and stretched out over time?

 

It's like buying a car. When you buy a new car, you love the new car smell, everything's nice and soft and smooth, and very crisp. Several owners later, the car smells like cigarettes, food, coffee, stains all around, worn out parts, in need of maintenance, loose clutch, scratched surface, loose bearings, etc. etc. Someone's already been there, done it, taken full use of it, and now it's value is well depreciated.

 

Doesn't quite work the same with men does it? Only adds to our value if anything.

[hexaemeron]

Where do I meet these older female virgins?

 

I seem to be coming accross women with a lot of mileage on them.

 

But oh well I'm no longer look any more.

 

Not to be unkind, MD, but beggars can't be choosers.

[redtan]

And you boys wonder why we don't want to have sex with you. You seem to think it lowers our value.

 

You may not think so, but it does. Who wants to date/marry someone who's been with 30 guys before she's 22? I sure as hell don't want to.

 

And if you think mileage should be of no concern, then do you associate the same with everything? So you're ok with buying 10 year old worn out stinky sneakers instead of brand new ones? I guarantee you you have never bought a pair of clothing or shoes that are that old, yet you seem to think that 'mileage' does not degrade something or someone's value.

[hexaemeron]

You may not think so, but it does. Who wants to date/marry someone who's been with 30 guys before she's 22? I sure as hell don't want to.

 

And if you think mileage should be of no concern, then do you associate the same with everything? So you're ok with buying 10 year old worn out stinky sneakers instead of brand new ones? I guarantee you you have never bought a pair of clothing or shoes that are that old, yet you seem to think that 'mileage' does not degrade something or someone's value.

 

Oh, so I see by your threads that you're single and trying not to be. Glad going for "mint" condition is working out for you so well. Perhaps dialing down the judgment of others would work wonders for you.

[hexaemeron]

I also have to wonder how many women he's been with himself. I would hate to think he was intimidated by a woman with more experience.

[redtan]

I also have to wonder how many women he's been with himself. I would hate to think he was intimidated by a woman with more experience.

 

I love me a woman with lots of experience, I've gone after and still like to chase older women who have just this. Doesn't mean I hate it and are disgusted by it, but when it comes to someone that I plan on being with the rest of my life sorry that I don't want some trashy hoe that's been around the block a few times.

 

Oh, so I see by your threads that you're single and trying not to be. Glad going for "mint" condition is working out for you so well. Perhaps dialing down the judgment of others would work wonders for you.

 

I'm doing quite fine, but thanks for worrying about me.

 

What kind of Neanderthal mentality is this, comparing humans to smelly old sneakers and fourth-hand cars?

 

Shame on you.

 

Join us here in the 21st century and stop looking at women like they are an extension of your extremely fragile ego. You just cannot handle the fact that women have been with other dudes, and therefore have a basis for comparison instead of just quivering in virginal admiration for you and your manhood.

 

Ok so the comparison was a little harsh, but you can't sit here and tell me that being with more and more dudes does not in the least bit 'lower' someone's value. Maybe fragile ego cannot take the beating that it can get when going after a more 'valuable' woman, so you have to convince yourself that it's 'ok' to settle for something less instead of going beyond your comfort level and trying to obtain something out of the ordinary.

[Taikero]

Honestly I prefer a woman who's had experience, especially with bad relationships. Yes, I prefer the so-called "damaged goods".

 

You don't recognize the good you have if you have nothing horrible in your experience to compare it to. People who've lived the good life take it for granted, and I want someone in my life who'll stick it out through the hard times.

 

As far as this applies to sex, yes this means my preferred partner will likely have sexual experience, possibly more than me. I'm totally fine with that. I don't believe that a woman is my property, and I should be the first "owner". Women are not hand-me-downs. Women are people just like I am, and I would not want to be judged on my past experiences. What is important is the connection you two share and how you make each other feel.

 

Sex is about coming together to intimately share who you are with another person. It's not about making your mark first. Dogs mark their territory, people create lasting bonds and relationships that keep them together. One is primal, the other separates us from that.