DMK Posted May 28, 2010 Share Posted May 28, 2010 So I won't go into crazy detail with a story because who cares really right? Lived with my beautiful (stunning) ex 4 years in my home. Engaged 1.5 years. Lying and emotional affair (possibly physical) discovered 2 months ago after she opted out of wedding. Wedding would have been 2 weeks ago. Mild contact for around 2 weeks after learning of EA via cell bill. NC (total) of 40+ days til today (immediately asked her to move out upon affair discovery). She wanted out anyway and put up no fight (so consider her dumper not me). Alright so the way I see it, I went NC for these reasons: 1. Knew I needed to heal and contact was a setback. 2. Needed to get my dignity/personal power back. 3. Missed her and still wanted her back (god knows why, because she is hot and I am lonely I guess), and knew NC, while rare, occasionally got exes to miss you and want back in. I put a 95% chance mentally, knowing her, she would never attempt a crawl back. Today, just got this simple out of the blue text after 40+ days: "I miss you..." OK so it's super minor and from reading the other stories I realize this...But why am I tempted to write back anyway? Am I stupid and weak? I know from reading, texts like this are basically just feelers, weak moments (much like dumpees have) yet here I am anyway. Sigh. Support? What to do? I think from reading around the right thing to do here is, even if I am still gullible enough to want to reconcile after the lies, I need more than this to bother even mustering up the energy to reply, right? Nothing short of an in person begging of epic proportions and apology for all that was wrong and a sincere commitment to make things right over a simple "I miss you..." before you even consider contact back right? - D. Link to comment
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