Help! Whats going on?? x

[Blusher]

 

hello, so im going to get straight to the point.

 

i met this guy on this new course im on, hes sweet, really nice to me and is very cute.

im really not one to brag but im good looking, slim and often go to the gym to keep in shape and i hardly ever get asked out, so it was a breath of fresh air that this confident guy was flirting with me.

 

at first i was excited, until i found out he had a girlfriend, i was upset but not that upset since i didnt really know him that much.

 

So i decided we were going to be friends, since we like the same football teams, programmes and have pretty much lots in common.

 

So we were doing okay having a laugh until the flirting started again when it went incredibly hot and i came to college in a summer dress/shorts etc, i couldnt help myself but to flirt back, i shouldnt have as i know its wrong and im a total idiot for it.

 

He got my number from another person on the course and started to text all the time, he would ring me often and a couple of days ago asked me out for a drink on friday (tomorrow) I said okay since theres no harm in that right? ugh, who am i kidding!

 

so today we went go karting together with other friends and had fun, until we were left alone, where he went to kiss me, i went for it for a moment but pulled back asking him what he was doing since he had a girlfriend who he has been with for 4 years.

 

He said he fancied me but he loved his girlfriend, but he still wants a "relationship" with me. Im very tempted to do so but i know his girlfriend would be heartbroken if she knew, and i could never do anything like that to anyone.

 

So i said it would be better if we stayed friends. Reluctantly.

 

I really am into this guy but dont see a future. i know im only young as im 17 but i cant stop thinking about him.

I have texted him telling him we need to talk about today, but the reply was " Sorry, making cakes with my girlfriend"

 

That hit me hard. so i decided to ask for advice and fount you guys. tell me straight please. im confused.

 

Tasha x

[Kenzie76]

Hiya Tasha,

 

What a rubbish situation, but atleast you did the right thing by not responding to his attempt to kiss you.

 

Although the attraction must be strong, I think his reply 'sorry, making cakes with my girlfriend' says it all. Obviously it could be a reply that just tells you he's with her and can't talk right now, but the bottom line is, he is with her but willing to see you...seems like he wants to have those cakes and eat them...both.

 

Like you say, you wouldn't want to hurt anyone, which tells me you're worth someone alot better than someone who would be willing to go behind his girlfriends back.

 

Try and be strong and reject his advances if he does try again. Out of this situation there would be two people who could get hurt and I bet he wouldn't be one of them.

 

Take care

[Sanesoul]

Ok, here it is straight....

 

Cut contact with this guy. You obviously have conflictions (with good reason) about this. Don't keep the temptation there by staying "friends" with him. There is always that line that is so easy to cross (like the almost kissing incident). Next time, you might just say the hell with it, and become part of a situation that makes him a cheater.

 

He has probably already been a cheater, but don't be a tool to help him do it.

[Blusher]

I know, thanks,

 

--- Another horrid part.

 

He rang me last night aswell and we were talking for 2 hours when his mum came in and asked who was on the other side of the phone. He replied with "Nobody important" and his mum kept asking, so he replied "My mate, he's asking me what time college starts tomorrow. Okay?"

 

He then went back to talking to me. I pretended i didnt hear anything.

 

I made up some excuse to get off the phone and was really dissapointed.

 

I keep thinking we have some strong bond but im not sure. xx

[Sanesoul]

I know, thanks,

 

--- Another horrid part.

 

He rang me last night aswell and we were talking for 2 hours when his mum came in and asked who was on the other side of the phone. He replied with "Nobody important" and his mum kept asking, so he replied "My mate, he's asking me what time college starts tomorrow. Okay?"

 

He then went back to talking to me. I pretended i didnt hear anything.

 

I made up some excuse to get off the phone and was really dissapointed.

 

I keep thinking we have some strong bond but im not sure. xx

 

I would have hung up on him right then and there. He knows what he is doing is wrong, and so do you.

 

There's no bond here, except for the one his trying to make between your nether regions.

[Blusher]

That made my day,

and you really have put it in perspective for me, and i honestly appreciate that.

Thanks a Lot. x