OptimisticGal Posted May 27, 2010 Share Posted May 27, 2010 So I have just started dating someone new..it has been only a few weeks and about a week ago the conversations of past relationships came up and he told me that he dated this girl for 3 years (he was friends with her 2 years before dating her) and after they broke up 3 years ago they really worked hard at staying friends. They are bestfriends now..he sees her at least 2 or 3 times a week or maybe even more...they go to coffee shops and study, go to concerts together and hang out all the times... I really like this guys, he is very kind, gentle, caring and honest..I appreciate the fact that he was honest with me and told me about her but I can't help feeling weird about this...is this normal??? and if not can someone really only be friends with an EX and see them all the time without wondering what if??? He seems really into me but I can't help feeling that once the honeymoon phase is over wether or not we are going to have a problem over this... I will never ask him to stop seeing her b/c based on our conversations I know that she is a big part of his life but at the sametime I am not sure if I can get used to the idea...I have never remained friends with an EX and that's probably b/c the breakups have never been mutual but the new guy says that his breakup with his ex was mutual and they didn't want the same things and they have since dated a lot but haven't found the right person they talk to eachother about they people they are dating but if he hasn't had a significant relationship since he broke up with her does that mean anything??????? I am just really confused I don't want to get hurt by liking him alot and then realizing I can't handle this whole ex/bestfriend issue...I talked to him about finding this weird and he said that I was right to feel that way and to give it a chance and he believes once I hang out with his ex he will see that there isn't anything going on by true friendship but I am not sure if he is right????????????? any opinion will be greatly appreciated thanks Link to comment
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