rekindle the intimacy and sex(help)

[mrg]

I'm gonna try to keep it nice and short. My girlfriend and i have been together for a year. The first couple months we were having sex almost 4 or 5 days a week. Now it's down to 2 or 3 times every 2 weeks or week and a half. If i don't approach her for sex we would prob have sex twice a month. I tried everything I can think of to bring that fire passion back in her. romantic words, flowers, give more compliments, help out with things more often and a open heart to heart convo about it. I need help!!

[fLuiD]

Maybe spice up the actual sex? Sit down and have a talk about the possibility of making sex a little more kinky. The sex might be feeling like a routine to her, and people get bored of routines.

[mrg]

I bought some hang cuffs but its just collecting dust. I'll try to by something else

[oldenoughtoknow]

You didn't mention what you've tried already. Maybe mainstream or amateur porn could heat things up. Or there are a few erotic massage videos out there - fun to watch and follow along. A lot of the women I've been with have liked peacock feathers and eye masks. Quite a few have liked nipple clamps and being tied to the corners of the bed. I think the important thing is to emphasize the fun and bonding aspect for the two of you. Don't spring anything too crazy on her without talking about it first. And when you do talk about it, don't come accross as if she's not satisfying you or there's something wrong with her.

[Timbertea]

Why not ask her to write down some of her fantasies for you? If she will do that it will get her thinking about it, and insight into some things she might enjoy. You do the same for her.

 

Some people just need permission.

[hers]

Is she going through anything major? Stress? New job? Did she change birth controls? A lot of that can factor into it. It may not be a matter of trying different things. Have you talked to her about it?

[mrg]

She has been stressed lately.. She's been laid off for a while. But she's getting unemployment. Aand I will try to do other things. Sorry for the late reply. Really busy at work.

[hers]

So it very well has nothing to do with you. She could be feeling a lack of self-worth, and none of us feel sexy at a time like that. It's not about writing fantasies down or handcuffs. It's probably that she is so stressed about being unemployed that it's taken away her self-esteem, and no amount of compliments from you will give her a job. The best thing you can do, I think, is be there to support her and let her know she can rely on you to be there for her when things are rough. Be a good boyfriend and the rest will follow!

[top bloke]

Have you tried talking sexy to her? Arouse a womans mind and her body will follow

[mrg]

So it very well has nothing to do with you. She could be feeling a lack of self-worth, and none of us feel sexy at a time like that. It's not about writing fantasies down or handcuffs. It's probably that she is so stressed about being unemployed that it's taken away her self-esteem, and no amount of compliments from you will give her a job. The best thing you can do, I think, is be there to support her and let her know she can rely on you to be there for her when things are rough. Be a good boyfriend and the rest will follow!

 

I love her with all my heart. I really do. I already told her I'm here for her. I'm suppose to buy a car and I told her I would put that on hold for now. A car will always come around.

[mrg]

Have you tried talking sexy to her? Arouse a womans mind and her body will follow

 

I tell her many times how she turns me and etc. I try my best to make her feel sexy. She told me a couple times that she's not good at being sexy. I always tell her to be herself, she is beautiful, and everything she do is sexy. Things were going great after that. And now things just slowed down.

I had a talk with her today about how I been feeling and she admits that the passion is decaying and slightly killing the intense love that we have for one another. The one thing good to know is that she said she does not want to loose me.

[top bloke]

Write her a sexy story on what youd like to do to her in the bedroom and put it under her pillow with a flower..

Saying she turns you on isnt enough.You love her now turn up the heat before someone else does..

Try it and tell me if it works.