kevyl Posted May 25, 2010 Share Posted May 25, 2010 Hi guys, have been reading the forums for days, dont know where to turn, This is my first post but is going to be a long winded one so i hope you can bare with me. My ex girl and i met in work almost 3 years ago.(shes 28 im 24) She was with another guy at the start but they had broken up in January 09. They were quite serious and had been together 8 years and were engaged and had been trying for children (he could only provide with the help of IVF which they were on the list for). Anyway he wasnt a good bf to her and she had no life to speak of (her words not mine) She broke up with him and he continually begged her back pretty much the whole time we've been together Anyway in April of 09 we started to text as we had met randomly on a night out in another town and exchanged numbers. We had also planned a holiday away together along with two otherworkmates for the summer. After about amonth of meeting up regularly i finally got the courage one night to kiss her. And she kissed me back. Things were fantastic. We met up regularly and about 2 months after slept together. But then she distanced herself right before the holiday which was in August 28th 09. I found out on the holiday that she had allowed her ex back into her life and they were trying again because she seemed to desperately want a child but were not officially back together. So i distanced myself also and actually drunkenly kissed the other girl we were going on holidays with (which meant nothing to either of us) The holiday came around and her ex did not want her to go as he knew about me and her, but she went along anyway. Thats when i found out she had been seeing him again, during the holiday we both kissed other people randomly on nights out and seemed like we were trying to make each other jealous. By the end of the holiday we admitted to each other that we loved each other (me initiating) We agreed to be a couple after this and so began her long battle to get her exs name off the mortgage. Eventually he left but still text her all the time but i totally trusted her and have no reason not too. For Christmas i booked us a 2week holiday to majorca for march 10. Things were perfect and we never argued the whole relationship although she did convey to me that i did not care enough about chores around my own house or hers and that annoyed her that i was lazy. I did try and change. In January of this year we agreed that she would come off the contraceptive pill as we both wanted children. And finally last month April, she told me she was coming around and we needed to talk. Shed become distant after the holiday and told me its because she'd received a letter saying that this was their last chance to avail of the IVF. It had made her worry that their was something wrong with her this time as she realised we'd been having unprotected sex for 3 months with no pregnancy. She left me that day and said that i wasnt mature enough and that she hated to do it cause she still loved me but had been focused so long on having a child that she wanted to go out and be single and find herself... The next week after a week of NC (friday night) she turned up at a football game i was playing with no forewarning. After the game we talked and went back to my house. She stayed that night and we had sex, she said the next day that she missed me so much and hoped shed see me on the sunday, she did and we had a great day again and i stayed with her at her house that night. I thought great everythings back. Then little contact again until that wednesday. She said tat her head wasnt in it and she needed to be on her own. In this time i accepted a new job partially for better money and partially to move away from her. So NOW its may and i got a text on saturday from an old workmate (who was at a work get together with her) which said she was already seeing someone else (Not her ex or anyone i knew) I text her a lot of abuse basically calling her a * * * * and had admitted what had happened with the other girl before holidays to hurt her. She phoned the next day and said that she had only met the other guy 2 weeks ago and that was their first night out together. I honestly believe thats the truth I left it with a text to her on Sunday saying that i was so sorry for the abuse, that i loved her so much and that if being with someone else made her happy then thats all that mattered. i also asked her not to contact me again.... She hasnt I Want her back soo much its all i think about and all of my friends are partnered up so its not even like i can have them around to take my mind off it or go out with them to meet someone knew. Will she contact me again/regret her decision to start afresh with someone else already? Ive taken up a plan now to go NC because now i have no other choice, So im on day 3 of NC and will post regular updates daily. i have felt no pain like this before even after the breakup of my first love of 5 years who continually cheated on me. I am not afraid to admit that i have cried for the past 3 days. To anyone that has read this thank you so much because it is a long long post Link to comment
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