time to have it out but what do i say to him?

[blueeyes83]

Im at the point now where i need to have a talk with my boyfriend over certain things but I have a real problem talking about issues. Basically we have been together 4 months but I dont think ive been on high up on his priority list, i always feel there is something not quite right and missing. Its really confusing because i keep thinking if he didnt want to be with me then surely he would have just ended it but so far he hasnt.

 

I now need to speak to him about all of this because at 4 months i feel its time to get some direction on where we are heading. I sent him a txt yesterday asking when he was next free as i wanted to talk to him about a few things but hes completely ignord my txt and not said. Not being funny but if it was me and someone had txt me that id be asking what it was all about and wanting to meet up to find out.

 

Does anyone have any tips for these types of discussions? Im so useless at talking about things id sooner the ground swallowed me up!

[Jd1983]

I'm sorry to say this, but if he ignored your text yesterday, that's a sure sign of how he's feeling.

 

If you already sense that something is amiss within the relationship, why are you still holding on?

[HouseKitten]

I think this conversation will end up being a relationship-ender, not one that brings you closer. Just the fact that he's ignored a basic request from you is a red flag. He doesn't sound enthusiastic about the relationship and to be honest, I don't think you do either. But I understand that it's natural to want to try and make things work even if they don't really feel right. I think you should look at whether he's really right for you though.

 

There's no shame in deciding it's not working for you. You should be with someone who makes you certain of their affection, not someone who has you guessing.

[geekgirl4]

Ah, I agree, ignoring that basic request is a definite red flag. 4 months and still no real idea of where the relationship is going?

[SpottiOtti]

Its really confusing because i keep thinking if he didnt want to be with me then surely he would have just ended it but so far he hasnt.

 

Not necessarily true . . . Sometimes it's easier to avoid a person or to play along somewhat until they get the hint. It's been done to me, and I've done it.