RubenShirley08 Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 *The last post was so long that I deleted it and tried to simplify as much as I can in this one. Over the past 2 years I developed a very close relationship with a female fellow band member - we talked almost every day, hung out together, went out together every weekend, etc. . During this time she opened up to me and told me all about her problems with her boyfriend, and family, etc. And trusted me with her deepest, darkest secrets, and vice versa, and has stated that we've become so close it's "almost scary." People have always seen us as a pair, some have seen us as a couple. We go many places together. A few months ago, we had a big argument over really nothing, I apologized because I acknowledged that everything was my fault, and I'd do anything to not lose our friendship, and she told me that it was all o.k. and all was forgiven, and I believe her. However, as time has passed she has become more and more withdrawn, will not share anything personal anymore, will not return phone calls or emails and doesn't want to do anything together anymore. That one argument we had forced us in taking a 2 month hiatus from each other, and she stated that she wouldn't talk to me until she was ready, and despite that, she's still withdrawing from me. We recently started hanging out again, but every time we hang out, we'd argue over something I did, or we'd argue about that initial argument we had. She won't even call me as usual anymore. I am heartbroken over this. I have other great, wonderful friends, but she is the only person I've ever spent so much time with, and she's the only girl I'm having deep feelings for, and now I feel like part of me is missing. She was the one friend I could be completely honest with and she helped me overcome some major personal obstacles (granted that she was always the blunt one, and I was the quiet one) and now I feel abandoned and thrown out. Part of me wants to keep doing what I always did as far as keeping her close to my heart, and continue to avoid talking to her, but the other part just wants me to end our long friendship completely, because the more arguments we have, the more anger, sadness, and love I feel for her. I have 2 months left before I transfer to my new school, and she's barely going to be a senior in high school (age gap there), so how I can rectify this? Link to comment
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