Are girls just as shallow as guys when it comes to looks?

[Lowconfidence]

When it comes to strictly looks, men are more shallow.

 

However, a man becomes more physically attractive if he has fame, money, status, or seen with a lot of beautiful women.

 

Most men don't care about these factors. So like another poster said, if you factor everything women are more shallow than men for sure.

[oldenoughtoknow]

From my experience, I think there is fairly significant age factor involved. Younger guys are definitely attracted primarily to looks, and many younger girls are the same (okay, but who can explain Robert Pattinson...he reminds me of Lurch from the Adams Family). But as each year goes by, as each lousy relationship with someone you only thought was hot falls by the wayside, most girls tend to smarten up way faster than us guys.

 

Although most guys do eventually. How many guys have seen the sitcom The Nanny? Fran Drescher's character is an attractive woman...until you hear her laugh. At that point, she goes from around a seven or eight to a zero or maybe less. Think about that one a while, guys. Maybe you're not as shallow as you think. "Hum, you mean there really is more to attraction than just T&A?!?"

 

Overall, I think the "myth" holds water.

[Brightest Dark]

I agree with the people who say it's not being shallow, it's a preference.

 

If you think about it more in-depth there are different scenarios. For example, one person may see someone of the opposite sex and think 'wow, that person is attractive, I would like to get to know them more... Maybe they're a nice person and we can eventually have a relationship' whereas others, this *could* be more likely to be men, see the opposite sex and think 'that person's hot, I'll nail them!'

 

As you can see, two different types of person went for looks first, but in different ways. The second would be more shallow because they didn't care about the person at all, more just sleeping with them. However although the first was attracted to a member of the opposite sex, it was a more emotional thing where they wanted to get to know that person - and they are NOT shallow.

 

Some people are more picky when it comes to looks than others - but that could just mean they have higher standards.

 

I would say the standard of men's looks are lower. There are so many pretty girls, who take time with their appearance whereas particularly after a certain age, there seem to be less attractive men around. Men seem to make less of an effort to look good. I think it is easier for men to find women they are attracted to because there are so many pretty girls around. Men don't NEED to be so picky because a ton of attractive females are about.

[jammin_james61]

The people in both of these scenarios were influenced by a person's looks, this is shallow; just because one is made out to be less sleazy doesn't change that.

 

Also, having preferences is a result of being superficial, or shallow. It's wrong, it may be natural and human, but it is wrong.

[dog stevens]

I would actually say females are MORE shallow than guys. I know some ladies who will only date a shorter guy who looks like Ryan Phillipe or Leonardo DiCaprio. And these women are kind of ugly too.

 

I've noticed that lots of average/ugly looking females MUST have an extremely attractive to guy to compliment their lack of looks. It's like the ugly/average looking female thinks that dating an extremely attractive guy will help hide her ugly looks and make her a hot girl by association of a hot guy.

[teabee]

I would actually say females are MORE shallow than guys. I know some ladies who will only date a shorter guy who looks like Ryan Phillipe or Leonardo DiCaprio.

Thats specific. They must very rarely find dates.

[teabee]

I've noticed that lots of average/ugly looking females MUST have an extremely attractive to guy to compliment their lack of looks. It's like the ugly/average looking female thinks that dating an extremely attractive guy will help hide her ugly looks and make her a hot girl by association of a hot guy.

 

I have never noticed this. For the most part it looks to me like both women and men seem to find partners who are at about the same level of attractiveness.

[Go Habs Go]

Granted I haven't seen many cases of attractive women dating average-below average looking guys, but I can't recall seeing an attractive guy with an average-below average girl. I remember going out with a girl once that was average looking but was such a sweet person, and people looked at me like "Dude, you can do so much better". I generally avoid the best looking women because they often have horrible personalities.

[Sparkly Eyes]

Granted I haven't seen many cases of attractive women dating average-below average looking guys, but I can't recall seeing an attractive guy with an average-below average girl. I remember going out with a girl once that was average looking but was such a sweet person, and people looked at me like "Dude, you can do so much better". I generally avoid the best looking women because they often have horrible personalities.

 

I'm sure it was all in your head,lol. Happens to me all the time, when I think something myself, I feel that in people's looks too, but I'm often very wrong.

[Go Habs Go]

I'm sure it was all in your head,lol. Happens to me all the time, when I think something myself, I feel that in people's looks too, but I'm often very wrong.

 

 

But I was with her for her personality. It didn't bother me that she was a size 12 instead of a 2. But I did have people telling me I could do better. It was quite offensive too since it implied people were expecting me to be shallow.

[Sparkly Eyes]

But I was with her for her personality. It didn't bother me that she was a size 12 instead of a 2. But I did have people telling me I could do better. It was quite offensive too since it implied people were expecting me to be shallow.

 

I mean the way people looked at you probably wasn't much related to the person you were with. You thought that way because you believed that should have been the case.

[Go Habs Go]

I mean the way people looked at you probably wasn't much related to the person you were with. You thought that way because you believed that should have been the case.

 

 

It had nothing to do with her. I did choose her over others. As far as my beliefs, I don't believe in choosing someone just because they look good. I've been on both ends of the attractiveness scale. I remember what it was like prior to age 19 or so and being average looking and not getting much attention. I wasn't treated poorly by the good looking girls, but I didn't receive attention from them either.

 

 

Do I have a problem with good looking women? No. There are good looking women with wonderful personalities. But IMO, there are more average looking women with good personalities than good looking women with good personalities.

[Brightest Dark]

The people in both of these scenarios were influenced by a person's looks, this is shallow; just because one is made out to be less sleazy doesn't change that.

 

 

I disagree. One can put a lot of thought into a person even if they pick them due to their attractiveness. It really depends on the person. A person who doesn't go for looks might just want a one night stand (esp if he's desperate), while a person who goes for looks might want a meaningful relationship. The one who cares less about what someone looked like but wants a quickie could be deemed more shallow than the person who has higher standards regarding looks and wants to take it slow with a member of the opposite sex.

 

Plus most people choose someone they're attracted to physically, even those that say looks don't matter. I have had guys write to me on POF who have then had a rant because I told them they weren't my type. They said I shouldn't be so shallow - but if that's the case, why are they writing to me, a slim long-haired blonde and not a 20 stone shaven headed woman? People who make out that others are shallow are usually equally as bad, they just won't admit it. Half of the ones that get offended because I don't fancy them and tell them are usually the ones who start off 'wow, how hot are you?' or something. Yet, they then have a go at me and tell me I'm shallow because I tell them I'm not interested. Riiight.

[jammin_james61]

I don’t follow your logic.

 

You understand that being less shallow than someone doesn’t mean you’re not shallow yourself, right?

 

And what is this thing about types anyways? Did you see a picture of them, after chatting and with them and getting curious, and then decide this? If that’s the case then there are elements of shallowness in your decision. Remember, you might not consider yourself as shallow as them, but you’re still being shallow.

 

Again, it might be a natural thing to do, and I can’t fault anyone for it, but it’s still wrong.

[misssmithviii]

Ummm... since when did having personal preferences become synonymous with shallow? Shallow from what I informed of was only regarding someone's looks, nothing else and looking no deeper - hence the connotation of "shallow". I guess I missed the memo

 

I'm not shallow if I simply cannot be attracted to someone physically. The opposite of that demands I must be openly attracted to everyone... yeahhh that's not happening. I can't be attracted to a guy who walks around aloof, wearing something ridiculous and with multi-colored hair. So what? I'm not shallow, I don't find that attractive. In fact, it's off-putting to me. My man loves my exotic look, he's not shallow for not being attracted to a 300lb woman or a stick-skinny girl.

 

I can't believe people are seriously using the word shallow (which is basically slang and in this case a simple connotation) for everyone in the world simply because they aren't physically attracted to every single person in the world.

[mamajenkoz]

you know? I think some of us are. I am unfortunately... I know plenty of really decent guys that have everything going for htem but just aren't my cup of tea when it comes to looks...and though it would suit me well to get into a relationship via my brain...I would nver be phycially attracted to them so it would never happen...I know it sounds horrible but its just how it is..I am actually dealing with a sitch right now that is along these lines...

however, that being said, if I am attracted to a guy, and he's a complete tool, then the attraction dissipates. Real quick.

[Lucius]

It's wrong, it may be natural and human, but it is wrong.

 

Again, it might be a natural thing to do, and I can’t fault anyone for it, but it’s still wrong.

 

So it's natural, it's human, and you can't fault anyone for it. But it's "wrong". Under the circumstances, it's seems that your use of the label "wrong" is both redundant and arbitrary. For one reason or another, you dislike it. That fact alone doesn't make it wrong.

 

It's not "shallow" to acknowledge that one has physical preferences. That's honest, healthy, and normal. It's "shallow" to have ONLY physical preferences. To focus the entirety of your energies and standards on JUST the physical.

 

The hallmark of "depth" is not a lack of standards.

[ghost69]

being shallow is denying your true attraction to someone. whether it's their looks, personality, or values that draw you in, it doesn't matter. you're shallow if you leave someone for something like money or a car or something.

 

there is nothing wrong with having preferences in what you want in life. i wouldn't go buy a '79 gremlin because 'it's a car too' or because the engine purrs or has nice stitching on the interior.

[glucoze]

Girls are just as shallow.