Brigadoon Posted May 23, 2010 Share Posted May 23, 2010 Was sitting with my son last night while he was drinking his hot milk and cinnamon before bed. Out of nowhere he started talking about my ex. He takes things very deep and it takes a lot to get him to open up. I knew that he has really been missing him and I've been really worried as they haven't seen each other since a couple of months after the breakup when my son went up to him in work and my ex just said hello and then said good bye and that he had to get back to work. This is the guy who lived with us for two years and encouraged my son to call him dad. I'm a pretty level headed person and I have forgiven him for everything that happened between us; feelings change and there is nothing you can do about that but everytime I think about the decisions that he has obviously made regarding my son (despite my making it absolutely clear that he is welcome to see him and should he decide to do so that he will be met with nothing but friendliness and respect in all regards from me) I want to knock his teeth back his throat. I understand that there are plenty of people on here whose children are being blanked by their actual biological fathers so I am aware that I don't have much to complain about but I really just want the best for my son so I'm wondering if anyone has any advice for me with regards to how to deal with this? Should I press him to talk about it? Or should I just leave him bring it up? We had a nice little chat last night so I hope that at least his saying that he was missing him helps him to feel better. We had a good laugh about all the stupid things my ex used to do and he seemed to go to bed in a good mood so hopefully if I handle this right then it'll be a big help. Link to comment
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