angelo82 Posted May 22, 2010 Share Posted May 22, 2010 I hope I don't come off as a selfish/jerk/immature, but I may. But I'd like some perspective on if I'm overreacting. So when my girlfriend and I were first together and making out she would whisper things to me in an attempt of a turn on. For example she asked me if I'd like to "skull-" her. I asked if she was serious and she said flippantly she'd done it before so it wasn't that big a deal. Then she also said something about me " in her and watching the drip out." (yeah. I was amazed too at the dirtiness of the comment too, lol. I hadn't said anything close to this dirty to her). Again, I'm like, "Whoa. You're down with that?" And she said, "Sure." Later on (maybe a month later) we were at a Spencer's in the mall and we passed by the sex items. She pointed to a tube of "Tushy Tamer" (anal lube) and casually said, "Oh. I've used that before." At this point despite having sex for weeks we didn't do any of the things talked about before. She said I was too large for the skull and anal. So at Spencer's when she pointed out about the particular brand of anal lube she had used with a previous bf I kind of went, "Meh.." in my head. Another thing is that she won't swallow, even though she says she did for previous boyfriends. She says her allergies make it hard for her. I look at it as a kind of rejection. At least do it one time (we've been dating 6 months and she never has). Once we were watching family guy and a joke about foot jobs came up. She said she had done that before. I had never had one. Well, fast-forward a couple months and during foreplay I asked her if I could get a foot job. She grinned and sarcastically said, "OH WOW! YOU'RE A FREAK!!" It was kind of a buzzkill for me, as I sit there thinking, "uh... you're the one who's actually done it before and you're calling me a freak???" So at that point I wasn't really into it anymore. Then she kind of goaded me and said I was the more kinkier of the two of us (even though she's had multiple threesomes; I've never had one. She's had sex in parks and a movie theater; I've never done anything like that. I asked her, "what makes me kinkier?" She said that I've done anal more times than her. Then she said I was kinkier because I lost my virginity to someone who wasn't a virgin (???) Still trying to figure that one out lol. She lost hers to another virgin and she thinks it's odd that I didn't also. So we're at 6 months and have yet to do (even try) the skull, anal, footjob, and swallowing. These aren't things that I want to become commonplace. Just try once. And here's where my jerky selfish whatever you want to call it comes into play - I'm jealous that she did these acts with ex bf's and won't at least do them once with me. Maybe it's like a dog marking it's territory thing. I don't know. But she's the one that put these images in my head of her and her exes. I think of the things she whispered to me and think (I assume they were things her exes liked and that's why she tried to turn me on with them) of her doing these things with her exes. I realize due to the size problem, skull is not going to happen. So I've never really bothered her about it. And the threesome thing doesn't really bother me. She's done it before with a boyfriend (I think she was forced into it and it was regrettable for her) and I've already told her I would never want to do something like that with someone I care about (her). I've expressed how I feel to her but I've always told her I don't want her to do anything she's uncomfortable with. Before you all jump on me with "how would you like it if she wanted you to do something uncomfortable" etc.. well, she likes to be rough and bite and scratch me. It hurts like hell and it's not really my thing but I let her do it because I know she likes it. I'm also very giving in bed. I always hold out until she gets hers. Link to comment
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