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how do guys with girlfriends act with other girls?


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There's this guy who I think is super cool and I really like as a friend, but our relationship is not exactly 'friends' yet, and it is also a bit awkward.

Well we went on a service trip together (all 17 of us) and at the start of the trip, I thought he was interested in me, because he would talk to to me whenever he can. He would also call me cute, and would place a camera in front of me and say things like 'i see pretty girl'. My two other girlfriends felt that he liked me too... but in day three I found out that he has a girlfriend because he called her in front of me, so I sort of stepped away and stopped flirting with him. Actually, afterwards, my girlfriends felt that their prediction that he liked me, was wrong.

But that's ok, because he was a cool guy and I admit that I was a bit into him at first. Anyway, after the trip, whenever there's a gathering, I still liked flirting with him for some reason....but they're harmless. And I know that he likes his girlfriend a lot because he would talk about her, and I'd be cool with it and ask him about it too.

On one night we had a weird conversation, he was teasing me about this guy who he said likes me... which isnt true. But anyway, I jokingly said to him:

Me: Well that's too bad.. because I love you.

Him: Well... I'm taken (laughs)

Me: But... I love you!

Him: OK then let's have sex

Me: Sure, get a room...!

Him: (Embarrassed).

 

Our relationship is still good, I've called him on his birthday and we chatted a bit. The thing is people were leaving messages on his facebook saying happy birthday, and he replied to all of them, except mine.

When we talk it's fine though. Not that we talk anymore now that it's holiday so we never randomly call each other.

 

I mean I know he's taken... but how do guys act around other girls? He's obviously a really decent guy.... does he even like a little bit at first?

 

I want to be friends with his guy... he's amazing, but seems so hard to. He's leaving soon this week and I don't think I will see him in the summer. The truth is.. I enjoy these little flirting with him, when we talk (in the gatherings) our faces were really close and we drank from the same glass (but then we all do)...

 

Guys who are taken.. is it possible that you be attracted to a girl even though you like your girlfriend a lot?

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Yes, it is very normal. But that type of attraction isn't necessarily an emotional one, but more of a physical one, I feel.

 

I know, when my ex. travelled for a bit during the school-year, I was alone and I found it impossible to not check girls out. I love my girlfriend, but for me (and I guess most guys), we are always on the look for eye candy. We all have our desires and needs, although how far we go all depends on how much we respect and love our significant other.

 

So yes, we can get attracted by other girls when we are taken, especially if those girls are physically appealing.

 

Having said that, though, what he did was WRONG and it was a little selfish of you to tell him you love him knowing that he has a girlfriend.

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Yes, it is very normal. But that type of attraction isn't necessarily an emotional one, but more of a physical one, I feel.

 

I know, when my ex. travelled for a bit during the school-year, I was alone and I found it impossible to not check girls out. I love my girlfriend, but for me (and I guess most guys), we are always on the look for eye candy. We all have our desires and needs, although how far we go all depends on how much we respect and love our significant other.

 

So yes, we can get attracted by other girls when we are taken, especially if those girls are physically appealing.

 

Having said that, though, what he did was WRONG and it was a little selfish of you to tell him you love him knowing that he has a girlfriend.

 

Now that I think of it, it was a bit bad of me to do that, but we all knew that it was a joke, especially cos we're never serious. Though I guess he could tell I had a thing for him from my flirting.

 

What did he do wrong?

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He should know his limits. It's not a major crime but he needs to be careful. He knows that you are obviously attracted to him, but when he flirts back, he's giving you this false hope. You won't realize it, but when you think about him, you'll tell yourself, 'but he flirts with me', which will make you upset.

 

How would you feel if your boyfriend joked around like that with a girl that he flirts with, who has a crush on him?

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I think for someone to even allow someone else to flirt with them says a lot about their personality - and let me tell you in my relationship that does not fly.

 

You can justify i t all you want by saying it was harmless and it was all in a joking manner, but it is what it is - especially if his gf knew about it.

 

You know how my man acts with other girls? He's polite, but has definite boundaries that he will not allow any other woman to cross. He treats them as nothing more than a friend, never in the gray area of being attracted or acting like he's attracted to them. I think what you've been doing is wrong and disrespectful to his relationship with another girl, however he's made it clear that it's ok for you and he doesn't have that boundary.

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Idk I think it really depends on the type of girl he's with. I always flirt with my girlfriend's best friend right in front of her and the both of them just laugh. I'm sure she knows that deep down we both (her best friend and I) like each other just a little bit, but we have a very trusting relationship. I assure her that I would never cheat on her and she does the same for me. So if this guy has that special kind of relationship with his girl then maybe that flirting really was harmless.

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Sure a guy will like other girls while he also loves his gf. Heck I had an affair with a guy who is taken and we had sex a number of times(Yes, he ended up cheating on her gf with me).I wouldnt blame him cuz I was acting selfish too. I know he has a gf but I've never considered her feelings.

If you wanna be friends,stop flirting.Cuz deep inside u wanna be more than friends.

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Sure if he's single... I can probably see this going somewhere.

I would almost be sure that he likes me (more than being interested) if he's not in a relationship.

It's kind of hard to be pure friends now that it's the summer and we don't really contact each other anymore, cos he's leaving to Thailand.

Plus if we see each other regularly, I doubt I can control my flirting... I am quite attracted to him and I get all flirtatious around him... and he kind of does to same... like touching my face and stuff. But ok, I'm more forward with my flirtatious ways since I'm not committed to anyone.

So it's better that we don't see each other often...

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When I was dating my last girlfriend I felt soo much more comfortable around other girls. Mostly because I didn't care what they though of me since I wasn't looking anymore. I had no problem going up to a hot girl who worked in a store and asking her for help, whereas when I was single I would have been nervous. I wouldn't say I flirted exactly but maybe I would casually flirt but never took it past reasonable bounds.

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