Little boy throwing rocks.

[Nearbot]

I developed a small crush on one of my coworkers. He was ridiculously nice, and it was a genuine niceness, not the trying hook-up kind if you know what I mean. He always tried to be around me, he'd wait to leave when I did and walk me to my car, etc., and I've heard those types of things are definite signs. Another coworker who I'm really close to and is a lot older assured me he was interested.

 

So after he and I got to know each other more, he started picking on me constantly! I've really started getting angry at him. He's sprayed me with a hose, made me do a filthy job, mimics me, on and on. . . The older coworker brought up how when you're little, the boys that like you will be mean to you. We're in college though

 

Another thing is that we have radically different views on a certain issue. Now I'm the type who hates discussing that stuff. I never ever bring it up. Yet he constantly feels the need to. He tells me how he's set in his ways and never gonna change, blahblah. I really don't care! I feel like he may be trying to tell me I have to accept him the way he is. But I do! I never hassle him about it, and when he brings it up, I kind of feel attacked.

 

When he starts picking on me, I give him the cold shoulder, and it usually makes him stop. I suppose it's obvious that he really has some growing up to do, but seeing him five days a week makes it hard for me to just forget him. When he goes back to his sweet self, I just want to be around him. Friends and mom say he just doesn't know what to do.

 

What should I do to make him feel more comfortable?

[DN]

What should I do to make him feel more comfortable?

Ask him out. It seems nothing else has worked - assuming you have tried to show you were/are interested.

[lavenderdove]

Yes, i agree... ask him out to dinner or coffee... see if the 'pay attention to me' silliness stops after that.

 

And if you do get on, you can tell him not to tease you as it is embarassing. And if he doesn't want to date you and still teases you, you can tell him to knock it off as that's not appropriate for work.

[Nearbot]

How should I show I'm interested? I tend to cling to the coworker I'm really close to just because we've been friends for a while, and his friends at work are kind of a drag so I don't enjoy hanging around them much. I touch him a lot and stick around him when he's by himself, but I'm kind of old-fashioned. I want him to do the asking out.

[DN]

I touch him a lot and stick around him when he's by himself, but I'm kind of old-fashioned. I want him to do the asking out.

How is that working for you?

[Nearbot]

Well in general it usually works

 

I should add that I often see him texting someone, so I'm afraid he may have a girlfriend. I am afraid of rejection and the awkwardness that could follow the rest of the summer. I've made it clear that I'm single.

[DN]

Well in general it usually works

 

I should add that I often see him texting someone, so I'm afraid he may have a girlfriend. I am afraid of rejection and the awkwardness that could follow the rest of the summer. I've made it clear that I'm single.

Well, it's not working this time, is it?

 

Rejection is part of the risk in dating and there is no reason you can't take it any more than he can. But you are the one asking on here and he isn't so I can't advise him to ask you out.

[LightbulbSun]

I don't know, I never treated a girl like that, so I don't know if that's what he's doing now.

 

He sounds really immature, though, by the sound of it. Are you really sure you want to date him, OP?

[theStig]

Why don't you pick on him back?

[Nearbot]

I found out he does have a girlfriend! Not through him of course. So I guess I don't have to worry about this. I feel a bit led on! Some guys!

 

I'd pick on him back sometimes, but usually I just didn't want to make things worse.

[ionno]

He actually acts in pretty much the exact same way I act.

 

If there's a girl I'm just not attracted to, or if I have a girlfriend, I'll treat other girls that way to hopefully put them off in some way so they aren't attracted to me. More often than not, it sort of backfires though and it just seems like I'm being playful rather than showing my disinterest.