Brigadoon Posted May 21, 2010 Share Posted May 21, 2010 Okay guys; I've made a decision here but I'm not going to say what it is. I'm just going to throw it out there and see what you'd advise. I'm great at telling you what to do so now I'm going to let you get some payback lol. Okay now for the details: My ex of two years, engaged for two months broke up with me and less than a month later was introducing a female friend that I had heard of but never met as his girlfriend. After initially asking me to be friends, to which I refused and then backed down out of panic I went NC about three weeks after the break up. He reacted to this by openly rubbing this new relationship in all of my friends faces most likely in the hope they would tell me, which they did, and refusing to speak to me until around the good six month mark. I contacted him and we met up to clear the air because all the nastiness from his side was distressing me, our mutual friends and his family (who we are still close to) From that day the nastiness disappeared and we discussed the fact that my son missed him as they had been very close and he had really seen him as a father figure. I asked him to bear in mind that if he ever wanted to see my son that I would never have a problem with that. It has now been five months and the door that I left open in order for him to feel he could see my son if he wished has been used to send me stupid texts asking "Any news?" and "How are you?" thus initiating conversations that seem to have the sole intention of knowing what I'm up to and filling me in on everything he's done since breaking up. I went along with this as I felt that in his position (and even though all the nastiness genuinely was from his side) that I would test the water a little bit but I really have had enough. He seems to think that we have some sort of friendship going on and even came right out and asked me not to text him first as his girlfriend had a huge problem with me and is very insecure and has trust issues (!) I think that I know what to do, and I certainly know what I want to do but I'm trying to keep everything calm for my son and my exes parents, who my son sees like grandparents and who see him as a surrogate grandchild. I would like to point out that our relationship with them works and they most emphatically do not think that I should ever take him back if the situation should arise; they were absolutely shocked and disgusted at his behavior also my son and I have no family and so this is hugely important if not to me (which it is) but to my son who loves them to bits. As I have said I have pretty much made a 99.9% decision as to what I need to do here but I'm really just looking for some reasurrance and objective advice! Thank's guys Link to comment
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