Uncertainguy Posted May 20, 2010 Share Posted May 20, 2010 Recently my girlfriend and I have decided to take a step back from our relationship but we still want to date each other and no one else. We live together and are making arrangements to move out. The reason for this split has a story. First ever since we moved in together she stopped wanting to have sex with me and would say things like she was feeling sick and it rarely happened. I would ask her about it and she would make accuses like it was the new pill she was on. She changed pills still same result and a big change from when we first got together. Second it took her about 4-5 months after us living together to mention me or say she was in a relationship with me on her facebook page in which she shares every other little thing about what she is doing all day. Third I had caught her receiving text messages from her ex boyfriend telling her he loved her and also found a card saying stuff like I hope we can have more times together. I asked her about this and she admitted that she may have led him on in order to get back at him for all the terrible things he did while they were together. So at this point I feel insecure about our relationship in general and when I try to discuss this she says I'm being controlling because I'm worried about these things. So the blowout happened because I noticed some behaviors that i thought were strange and different. She would stay up all night and not come to bed. i noticed her talking to another guy who use to like her on her Instant messenger at work(we work together too)who she use to say she didn't like anymore and thought was obnoxious. So i do something wrong and do some snooping. I admit I was wrong but I wanted to know the truth. I discover that she has been chatting with this fellow through text messages late at night at least once while I was sleeping and the some minor flirting where she willing accepted. I confronted her about this and it turned into me snooping and she can talk to who ever she wants. OK now we are in this holding pattern but still committed to not mess around with other people. Now she is talking to a new guy who she says is just her friend and I know that he likes her. He has brought her gum as a present she talks to him all day on the Instant messenger, I don't think she likes him but I know she is kind of leading him by letting him still like her, and he does like her and that's obvious but she won’t admit it. My question is...is it ok for the girl I'm involved with to keep talking to men that like her and are motivated to try and date her if we are trying to work things out or still have a relationship? Link to comment
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