Urgh. 8 Month on...

[MnSnR]

Anyone else this far/further since the break up? Why is it when you break up with someone you find out what they're truly like? I mean I have found out so much vile stuff since the break up. My ex has now resorted back to his old teen ways in taking drugs/drinking heavily all the time. I still love this man...Pathetic. Our daughter is only 1. His drug addict/ex convict father has just moved up here from Nottingham and they just got a flat together. Every day since then (2 weeks ago) photos of parties at their new flat have emerged on facebook by mutual close friends. It makes me sick. I have a daughter with someone I can't stand. He constantly makes my stomach drop. I'm still obsessed with everything he does and its been 8 month already. God, I just want to be over it already. Finding this too much to deal with. Why did his waste of space Dad have to move here. During these 8 month its just been slap after slap in the face. I can't ever get away from him because we have a child. ARGH! Anyone else here who have kids with an ex who has betrayed them in so many ways? I just can't handle it anymore. I want to run away!

[PennyLane09]

it's been 7 months for me..it still hurts...

 

that's awful that you still have to deal w/him the best you can for your child. hopefully soon the only way you'll care what he does is if it's affecting your child.

 

hang in there ...

[peanutbutterandjelly]

i dont have a child with my ex, but im going through a lot of the same things you're going through. My ex left me for an alchoholic and a drug addict and even though everyone else thinks he is makign all the wrong decisions, he doesnt care. I deleted my facebook, so i dont have to deal with knowing what he's up to, but last I heard, he quit his job so he could go hobo-ing around. He did that last summer, somehow got his job back and now quit it again. He is homeless, he lives out of his car and stays with his new girl friend overnight when her parents allow it. It is absolutely pathetic, yet it's been 7 months for me and I still miss hiim. I still would probably take him back. Sometimes I hate him, and sometimes I love him. I miss him and still think his good qualities outweigh his bad. Even after all this crap he's put me through, I still love him.

 

It mostly makes me sad. I see what he's doing. Everyone else sees what he's doing, but it doesnt matter. I can't believe that the person that I loved for almost 4 years is just throwing his life away. I love him and hate to see what he's doing to himself, but it doesnt even matter. i try to move on every single day, knowing that he's too far gone and I can't do anything. But you can't just turn a switch off. You can't just stop loving or worrying about someone that you cared so deeply for. I wish you could. I wish I could get over him. I can't get rid of my feelings though.

[AutumnBorn]

Nevermind. Nothing like your ex....what a loser. You and your child deserve so much more.

[MnSnR]

Ditto! It's sickening. I would still take him back even thought I know deep down I could never forgive him for everything hes done, yet I still find myself pining for him on occasions. Urgh! Do you ever feel like you'll just never connect with anyone again? It's been all these months and I have met so many guys out with friends etc. But nobody appeals to me anymore

[hater13]

I'm only 1.5 months in but my ex started to drink heavily right after our break up, even though his license was suspended due to his excessive drinking before..oh well I only told him to stop drinking for his own good.

 

Whatever