Ex contacted me AGAIN last night

[Little lady]

I'm pretty sure a lot of you have read my story if not it's just we've already been broken up almost 2 months, haven't talked for 3 weeks. She sent me a message a week ago, and sent me another one yesterday

 

which is a lot shorter than the other one

it says,

 

"hi,

i was just wondering if there was any news on the deposit.......

 

i hope you are doing well. let me know when we can be friends.......

 

 

......sorry i know it's not yet......"

 

 

 

The thing is, the whole latter part of yesterday I spent upset & crying(which I haven't really been). I was upset at her for basically wanting to break up to be with this other person, 3 days after the breakup dating someone else and now I don't know if I could ever be her friend, I don't know what to reply with, I feel lost. We haven't received our deposit money yet, and I know we can't be friends. Should I reply with that? I'm actually happy she contacted me, because I wanted her to. We were together basically every day for 5 years it's weird not having her around.

 

 

Help me find the strength I need to move on.

[Live-N-Learn]

I think you should reply since it sounds like it is about some money you both have coming. I would tell her I will let you know when the money comes in and will make the deposit. Please do not contact me again, I will contact you.

[Little lady]

Yeah, I think I will reply with something along these lines, thanks Scott

[Little lady]

I need help! I'm writing the reply right now and I guess I just need help. She's writing about wanting to be friends and she did hurt me and I would be her friend but I'm not stupid and would never allow myself to be hurt by her again.

This messes up my NC! I was going to be at 3 weeks tomorrow.

 

Should I just not contact her and mail the check? I have her sisters address.

[Little lady]

Should I send this in reply?

 

"I just got off the phone with _______________ and they usually mail the checks out on the 20th and they said ___ was sending ours out in the next day or so. Where would you like me to mail your half? Also Comcast charged me 53 dollars this month and I had to cancel it again, they put the check in your name and I'm waiting on that check so I'll just take that money out of your half of the deposit & mail you the check. After we get this deposit thing settled out please do not contact me again, I will contact you. I'm healing and I need you to respect that and let me get on with my life. Honestly ____, why do you want to be my friend?"

[Little lady]

or this one with this ending? I need some help!!!

 

"...... why do you want to be friends? You said we were not compatible, you started seeing and sleeping with someone immediately after we stopped dating, you really hurt me and I don't think I can let you back in my life to do it again."

[iBroken]

Neither of the two. So just this.

 

"I just got off the phone with _______________ and they usually mail the checks out on the 20th and they said ___ was sending ours out in the next day or so. Where would you like me to mail your half? Also Comcast charged me 53 dollars this month and I had to cancel it again, they put the check in your name and I'm waiting on that check so I'll just take that money out of your half of the deposit & mail you the check. After we get this deposit thing settled out please do not contact me again, I will contact you. I'm healing and I need you to respect that and let me get on with my life.

 

Short and sweet

[Little lady]

Neither of the two. So just this.

 

"I just got off the phone with _______________ and they usually mail the checks out on the 20th and they said ___ was sending ours out in the next day or so. Where would you like me to mail your half? Also Comcast charged me 53 dollars this month and I had to cancel it again, they put the check in your name and I'm waiting on that check so I'll just take that money out of your half of the deposit & mail you the check. After we get this deposit thing settled out please do not contact me again, I will contact you. I'm healing and I need you to respect that and let me get on with my life.

 

Short and sweet

 

Thanks, used exactly this! Minus the last part...I don't think she'll be contacting me much anyhow