My girlfriend's sister is depressed

[alice123]

This is the first relationship I've been in so I don't really know how to handle this.

 

So lately my girlfriend's sister has been depressed and it's really putting a strain on our relationship. We see each other at school a couple of hours every week day but a lot of the time she's depressed/sad and whenever I ask her why she says it's because of her sister. I've been through depression before and I've tried to give her advice about it but she usually ignores it.

 

My girlfriend doesn't invite me over to hang out anymore because she has to be with her sister. I can understand this but it's gotten to the point where she can't even hang out after school in general. It's either because she has to be with her sister, who's older than her, or because her dad won't let her. Even when I text her it'll be hours before I get a response, sometimes the next day. It hurts me a little since I usually reply to her texts right away.

 

Sometimes she'll ignore me at school too. Like drowning me out with earphones or playing video games while I sit in awkward silence.

 

Overall it's like she's pushed me way down on her list of priorities while I wait on her hand and foot. Any advice?

[IvantheAvg]

I only have one rule for any relationship...if we can communicate there is no problem.

 

She is not communicating.

 

Attraction grows in space...start withdrawing yourself...stop replying to her texts right away...give her some space. Waiting on someone hand and foot is a sure way to alienate them. Start focusing on alice as your #1 priority.

[alice123]

Thank you very much for the advice. When I think about, maybe some space would do the both of us some good.

[Angel-Bi-420]

I only have one rule for any relationship...if we can communicate there is no problem.

 

She is not communicating.

 

Attraction grows in space...start withdrawing yourself...stop replying to her texts right away...give her some space. Waiting on someone hand and foot is a sure way to alienate them. Start focusing on alice as your #1 priority.

 

Communication is very important in a relationship. And also how you respond to things.

 

IcantheAvg- Has a point. Give it some time and space, and maybe she will begin to miss you, more and more each time. Hope verything works out with you and your girlfriend.