misssmithviii Posted May 19, 2010 Share Posted May 19, 2010 Ok... so my man in the beginning always said he "loved going down" - however never really did that much so it made me terribly insecure, because it made me feel like there must be something wrong with me. The other day he surprisingly initiated and went down on me in the shower (of course because he doesn't like to do it unless we're either in the shower or just out of... regardless of how I wash myself after every bathroom visit just in case) and I must say it was the most amazing orgasm I've ever had. The few times he has gone down on me, I'm in heaven - I can orgasm just fine while we're having intercourse, but it doesn't feel as good in the sense that when he goes down, I just relax and it happens regardless of whether I'm tensing up, 'holding the feeling' or 'making myself orgasm' if you know what I mean. He's incredible at it - and I know it's because his ex couldn't orgasm by penetration so he had to go down or finger her in order to get her off - nothing else pleased her, so for the course of their relationship he always did it. Anyways, when I told him how amazing that was and how much it pleased me - he was happy; but I still wasn't. This entire time I've been under the impression that he "loved it" but when we talked about it more he admitted he "doesn't love it, but doesn't hate it." But still, I feel like there must be something wrong with me... he did it so much for his ex, but scarcely for me. Is that because she NEEDED it in order to obtain pleasure and since I can get off during intercourse - it's almost like there's no point??? regardless of how much I enjoy it? Or is there something wrong with me that he's just not telling me? This kills my confidence because I don't know what to believe. Am I to think he tortured himself with his ex in order to please her, all the time and so often? Or am I to believe that he actually does love to do it, just not to me because there's something wrong with me? Either way I feel like it's lose-lose. Regardless of the feelings, should I even talk about this with my man again? I don't want to nag him, but I don't know what to make of this. I just need some clarity, some reason for this to accept. Link to comment
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