angelina999 Posted May 18, 2010 Share Posted May 18, 2010 Hi. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 5 years. We are both in our 30s. I have kids from a previous marriage, he does not. The issue is: When I give things to my kids, or show interest in their interests, my boyfriend is resentful/jealous. He says it is because as a child he got NOTHING. He had no father in his life and he and his mom were very, very poor. He has emotional scars from how his mom treated him as a child. A lot of the times, I get the feeling that he expects ME to make up for all of this. One of the issues is that I make more $$ than he does, so he thinks I should buy all this stuff for him (everything from DVDs to an expensive digital camera). He says he'd buy it if he had the money, but since he doesn't, I should buy it for him. And when I don't, he gets mad because he thinks I am not sharing what I have with him. He says I am "lucky" to be making a good salary. I think I worked hard to get where I am. But when I say this, he takes it as an insult. I think that he needs to take responsibility for his own happiness and not expect me to make everything (even his childhood) all better. Sometimes I suggest he go back to college and finish getting his degree so he can get a better job, but that just makes him more angry. He has tons of excuses for not finishing college. I need to be able to give my kids the childhood I want them to have without my boyfriend getting all pushed out of shape. It is very hard for me to balance everyone's needs/feelings. Any insight would be appreciated!! Link to comment
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