What's Stopping You From Getting What You Want?

[kenseavert]

Hello all,

I was wondering, for you, what's the number one thing that stops you from getting what you want?

 

Another way to say this would be,

 

What's the #1 thing that stops you from growing or changing? If a magic genie could fix just one issue in your life instantly, any problem you have, what would you choose?

 

Thanks,

Ken

[hexaemeron]

Honestly? Most people prevent themselves from having what they want out of

 

• Fear of not being able to actually get it.
  
• Fear of not being able to handle it once they have it.
  
• Fear of actual happiness because that's not familiar and comfortable.
  
• an inability to divorce themselves from the idea that it must come exactly as envisioned tied up with a pretty satin bow, otherwise, it's not actually what they want.
  

[Lastchallenge]

Money! Alot of money. Some people say more money more problems... I see more problems more money! Health is important too but at the time right now more money, I'm talking a few mill at least would solve all my problems.

[livinginsbi]

for me.... money solves nothing... when I first started my career, in 1985, I had lived on $4000 a year... I got my first degree and thought.. if I can make $6.50 an hour.. I'll be set! Today I make more in one month than I made all year, back then... and it hasn't make a bit of difference in attaining my goals

 

What stops me? Me, myself and I. My fears, my attitude and whatever I let get in my way.. plain and simple. If I want it bad enough.. I'll figure out a way to accomplish it..

[all lucky 7s]

It's hard to pick just one thing.

 

For me, it's mostly a combination of a lack of motivation and too much fear. But if I had to pick only one, I'd probably up my motivation. With motivation, I could feel the passion to get over my fear. But with fear gone, I still might not have the motivation to succeed and follow through.

[lmd223]

It's hard to pick just one thing.

 

For me, it's mostly a combination of a lack of motivation and too much fear. But if I had to pick only one, I'd probably up my motivation. With motivation, I could feel the passion to get over my fear. But with fear gone, I still might not have the motivation to succeed and follow through.

I definitely think motivation is a problem for me as well.. and I'm painfully shy. -.- two problems I could never overcome.

[BriarRose]

Money . Money can solve a lot of problems - it can buy you a better, safer place to live, better health care and healthier food, a safe vehicle to drive, an education...

[BriarRose]

Money! Alot of money. Some people say more money more problems... I see more problems more money! Health is important too but at the time right now more money, I'm talking a few mill at least would solve all my problems.

I agree - except I wouldn't need THAT much, lol!

[Shallow]

Confidence.

 

If I could just get what I want once in awhile, I'd be more confident.

 

Maybe then I could get what I want once in awhile, but I doubt it.

[LightbulbSun]

Anxiety stops me from getting what I want. That and low self esteem.

[IntotheWild]

Too many choices. I'm interested in too many things and want more things than are possible to achieve in one lifetime. It's caused a lot of confusion and unproductive paralysis.

[Silencio]

Motivation, fear that I won't get it or that if I do it will be lost (this has recently happened to me too), lack of confidence in myself.

[kenseavert]

yes, very interesting, thanks for the feedback thus far every one, keep the answers coming.

Ken

[WomanWriter]

Negative thinking--or overthinking in general. My mind is constantly racing with all the "what-ifs." I am an obsessive thinker who cannot even sleep anymore because I wake up in the middle of the night with so much on my mind. I am trying to train my brain to just "be" but it is extremely difficult so far. My mind is on 24/7 and I can only last about 2 seconds without thinking about something in the past or future. I have read the book The Power of Now by Eckert Tolle, but I think I will have to give it another read.

 

Another thing that is stopping me is my financial situation. The economy where I am is very bad and I look for jobs daily without success. I do have a small income right now, but it is not enough to pay for my goals, so it is honestly holding me back.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Me - I procrastinate and tend to ignore problems.

[Taikero]

Money is my only problem. I am happy with everything else in my life except my debt. If I had a spare $100,000 I could make all my debt disappear and then some, as well as getting started on my retirement fund.

[Hermes]

So, so wise, Hex.

 

Fear of actual happiness because that's not familiar and comfortable.

an inability to divorce themselves from the idea that it must come exactly as envisioned tied up with a pretty satin bow, otherwise, it's not actually what they want.

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And in general I could reply to the OP by saying that many people don't even know what they want!

 

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[quirky]

Too many choices. I'm interested in too many things and want more things than are possible to achieve in one lifetime. It's caused a lot of confusion and unproductive paralysis.

 

This too for me and also fear of commitment and responsibilities, unless left to my own devices to do it my way. Which I guess comes from some low self esteem. I find it hard to keep my thoughts under control and it makes me not trust myself sometimes.

[Jetta]

For me the #1 thing is money or lack thereof. I've finally determined what I want to do in my life. I'd like to own apartment buildings, I'd like to own a bridal dress shoppe. Those are two of my dreams/goals. I don't currently have the money or backing to do those things. I hope I will one day.

 

My other dreams/goals are to own my own home with a pool is the dream part. Buy an SUV is a goal of mine as well.

[CntJstSitArond]

I think money would solve alot of problems for me... money opens up so many doors, atleast to me cause I have almost nothing of my own still living with my parents.

 

What holds me back I guess is fear, my shyness and inability to have fun conversations with people. I wish I could get a job and be able to talk to the people working there with me, but past experiences tell me thats over 99% impossible for me.

 

I want to finish college, just to have a degree and feel I hadn't wasted 4 years in college for nothing. As the years went by though, my motivation slowly slipped away and I'm no longer able to concentrate well at all.

 

What i really really want though is to just be able to have fun and talk to people like everyone else my age. I want to have friends to hang out with and possibly even a girlfriend though I know that will end quickly. My loneliness is killing me

[falldownkid]

I'd have to go with fear. I've been thinking about this recently, and I'm starting to believe it's less a fear of failure or success, it's more of a fear of what people will think of me. If I fail, will they laugh behind my back, if I succeed, will they be jealous and talk behind my back. I'm working hard on convincing myself that the important people in my life won't give a damn one way or another (except maybe to keep me grounded if success leads to a swelled head). And the others? F 'em.