dragon lady Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 Ex girlfriends have caused problems with every relationship I've been in. There have been so many times where I've wished that they would fall off the face of earth so that I didn't have to deal with them. Yes, I'm jealous and insecure. There's no doubt about that. But why can't guys just remove their exes from their lives? Why do they have to put their new girlfriends through this? A few weeks ago I was cleaning out my boyfriend's closet (with his permission) and I came accross of box of old photos of him and his ex who he was with for over 5 years. They broke up about 2 years ago, but from what I can tell they slept together for a while after they broke up. I know I shouldn't have looked and he doesn't care that I did, but I did anyway. I was just curious what she looked like in case we ever ran into her. Oddly, she looks a lot like me, maybe a bit prettier Apparently he hadn't seen her in 6 months and the next day we ran into her. It kind of annoyed me that they were so friendly. Now we run into her all the time because she just moved and got a new job about 2 blocks from where we live. It makes me so freaking uncomfortable! Then last night she called to tell him about the new job and they chatted for about 15 minutes (out of the room, but I could still hear). He was being painfully nice and he neglected to mention that I was with him at the time or that I'd just moved in. Actually, there was no mention of me whatsoever... The good news is that she has a boyfriend. The bad news is that she seems to keep intentionally popping back into his life, even though she knows he has someone new. This is kind of mind boggling for me because I'm not in contact with any of my exes, nor would I want to be. I'd rather leave the pain in the past. In fact, I never even talk about my exes with him. He knows nothing about them, except for the length of time I had been in those relationships. He talks about her a lot, usually in a negative tone. Maybe this is the paranoia coming out, but I can't help but feel like she's still interested in him. They obviously have a lot of history and I'm just a blip in his life so far. On the other hand, I know I shouldn't feel threatened because he's with me, not her, and I know he loves me. It just scares me to think about her weaseling her way back and I don't want to let him know that because it's kind of pathetic. I am pathetic. Link to comment
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