ebik Posted May 10, 2010 Share Posted May 10, 2010 This is all new to me and I just dont really know what im doing! I broke it off with my 1st love and 4.5 yr relationship 10 mths ago. In this 10 mths i have gone on a few dates, pashed a few random guys and fooled around a bit at bars, had a casual thing with a guy that lasted all up about 5mths and since then not a lot of action. I have only slept with one guy since my ex (the one i was seeing for 5 mths) and 4 guys altogether in my life (im 25.) Nothing much has been happening in the last 7 or 8 weeks and i'm starting to feel lonley, frustrated, in need for affection, intimacy and just someone to connect with. Im starting to get over going out to bars/clubs as most of the guys i meet are drunken, obnoxious losers, who have no respect for women. I tryed the online dating thing (thats how i met the last guy i was seeing) but i just dont know what approach i should have. Deep down i know i want a relationship, but only once i meet the right person. So in the mean time, should i just go with the flow and go on as many dates as i can? it just seems like most guys only want s*x! but then i think, well i am no prude, i like it too, maybe i should just have fun, fool around, maybe find a 'friend with benifits' and when i meet the right person then i will know. my problem is though, i have never done that before, im shy at 1st and dont know how behave in order to get to that point. I have been told i am very attractive, but i am also sometimes 'one of the boys' as i have always had guy friends, so i think i go on dates and maybe i act more like a friend than anything else. but is there a probem with that? am i going about things all wrong?? Link to comment
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