3 weeks to the day, she makes contact...advice needed

[Spondence]

Well Three weeks ago yesterday I showed up at her store told her that I loved her and that I wanted to make up. She coldly refused and said she just wasnt feelin it. That her feelings had changed. (as I heard a new text come through from her pocket book and an akward look on her face at that moment)...That's when I realized I'd been replaced and went total nc since.

 

She sent me one text a week later (on wed. date night) "Do you think I could have my pretty sneakers back that are at your house? ; ) "

 

she sent a duplicate 5 hours later....

 

I replied the next day "was tied up. Yes, you may have your ruby slippers back ; ) "

 

I then sent a flat rate box to her house with her nick nacks and all stuff relating to her.

 

Then Yesterday I get this text: "hey i rang u last nite i wanted 2 see how ur doin say hi"

 

3 hours later she placed a call to my cell and I did not pick up. No voice mail.

 

How the hell after i tell you I love you, you reject me ( for someone else) I send you your S*** in a box...do you say hi..and how are you doing?... * * * ? 3 weeks to the day and hour that I tried to get her back..

 

So I've been thinking about this...alot. To respond...or not to respond.

 

I was either thinking "Hi...I'm very well thank you. School almost out."

 

or complete silence.

 

I would love to hold this girl again and try to experience those good times again though I'm much more over it now. I could take it or leave it at this point. If you pressed me on the issue...yeah of course I'd say yes...Not sure how to proceed....

[faithful14]

If you respond, keep it short and tell her you're out with friends and can't talk. I mean, you don't owe her anything so there is no need to respond to her text if you don't want to. The decision is yours.

[wisdomseeker]

I might not reply to this text. She doesn't ask a question, so let this one go. She also didn't leave a voicemail.

 

I have a feeling you'll be getting more contact from her, and it may be contact where she does leave a voicemail or asks you a question, and then a simple response would be appropriate. So save the replies for when you actually need to respond.

 

I don't think letting this text go will push her away---she knows how you feel (you tried to woo her and get her back), and now I think pulling away a bit will do you good and create the best conditions for her coming back if a reconciliation is in your future.

[Ms Darcy]

Don't contact her until you are over her.