Little lady Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 Where do you stand on NC? Right now I'm on day 6. We've been broken up a month and 3 days. I figure if anyone needs that 'someone' to talk to just post it on here and stick to your guns! NC! It's whats for dinner Link to comment
Mustachio Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 Figured I would post even though I dont technically consider myself NC... but its been over 3 months since I last had any contact. Broken up for 8 months. Gets MUCH easier everyone! Link to comment
Little lady Posted May 5, 2010 Author Share Posted May 5, 2010 Figured I would post even though I dont technically consider myself NC... but its been over 3 months since I last had any contact. Broken up for 8 months. Gets MUCH easier everyone! Why don't you consider yourself NC? Goodjob to you! 3 months seems so far away but each day goes by faster than the previous Link to comment
drake11 Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 had to use a calendar haha, 79 days, planning on breaking it today. Link to comment
Mustachio Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 Why don't you consider yourself NC? Goodjob to you! 3 months seems so far away but each day goes by faster than the previous I dont consider myself NC anymore, because I no longer have any desire to talk to her and just dont really care about her in that way anymore. Still doesnt feel good, but thats where I have gotten. had to use a calendar haha, 79 days, planning on breaking it today. Why are you breaking it? Link to comment
Little lady Posted May 5, 2010 Author Share Posted May 5, 2010 I dont consider myself NC anymore, because I no longer have any desire to talk to her and just dont really care about her in that way anymore. Still doesnt feel good, but thats where I have gotten. That's awesome, I can't wait for that day. you are my inspiration! Link to comment
drake11 Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 Why are you breaking it? well i am going to ask her to grab a drink with me, haven't talked to her pretty much since it happened and i wouldn't mind seeing her. i can't be, 'just friends' yet and i doubt she can either but i guess i just wanna throw a out a feeler - no huge expectations. call it closure, call it an attempt to get her back, i dont know? either way life goes on. Link to comment
jimmajam Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 I'm not a big fan of no contact, because most people don't really want to do it (move on) and even more can't stick to it. I think it's best to just re-order your priorities to where YOU are before your relationship or your ex. After a breakup the ex is the main priority which is insane if you think about it - they just left you! I think it's best to focus on yourself, reply to the ex when they make contact, but don't go out of your way to converse or help them out. It's always case by case, don't be a * * * * * * * if they sincerely need something. This is how I handled my situation, unfortunately my ex barely bothered to contact me. She would text or IM here and there for the first few months and now she doesn't bother to even contact me (5 months now). That's her decision and I can't do much about it. Link to comment
PennyLane09 Posted May 5, 2010 Share Posted May 5, 2010 6 months in....i feel sooooooooo much better..i got the text trying to weasel back in, i ignored it and all of them...i'm better for it..i've meet a terrific guy...don't ever go backwards. stay in NC...take the high road. you'll all get thru this....i was on this site way back and felt like all of you. Link to comment
Little lady Posted May 14, 2010 Author Share Posted May 14, 2010 It's officially been 2 weeks and 1 day and she even tried to contact me the other day but no response from me, hunny! mwuahaha. Link to comment
berny Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 3 weeks...no contacts....i dont have any urge to contact her...because she is with someone else...and i know if i contact,i wil get depressed again.no point in it..and i have blocked her from every chat and mail...and i guess she has done same thing...and i am never ever gonna contact her again... Link to comment
Little lady Posted May 14, 2010 Author Share Posted May 14, 2010 3 weeks...no contacts....i dont have any urge to contact her...because she is with someone else...and i know if i contact,i wil get depressed again.no point in it..and i have blocked her from every chat and mail...and i guess she has done same thing...and i am never ever gonna contact her again... well good for you! it's best this way in the long run. Especially if they've already supposedly 'moved on' goodluck to you Link to comment
sphx26 Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 Broken up for almost 3 months.NC for 3 weeks and 1 day! ... I should've gotten into it sooner though.lol. Anyway it does get better each day...the cries become less and less, with intervals in days. My bestfriend says it's normal,then one day, it'll just stop. I can't wait for that day! Link to comment
Little lady Posted May 14, 2010 Author Share Posted May 14, 2010 Broken up for almost 3 months.NC for 3 weeks and 1 day! ... I should've gotten into it sooner though.lol. Anyway it does get better each day...the cries become less and less, with intervals in days. My bestfriend says it's normal,then one day, it'll just stop. I can't wait for that day! I know what you mean! I can't wait for that day either it will be something like this Link to comment
Saudade Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 It has been 10 weeks and so has been NC....Two weeks later the breakup he wrote me a letter...a month later I responded it(just a few things we both wanted each know/kind of closure letter)...Thats all. It was my choice NC...Still hard because I still miss him...but going NC right away it was a good decision...It gets better day by day. If he ever contacts me I wont ignore him but one thing I am sure...the 1st contact wont come from me. Link to comment
Puo Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 Coming up on two years (officially in August). Won't lie and say that I don't miss the person. But I'm proud of myself for doing it. I wouldn't be as confident in myself, as happy, and with anyone if I hadn't done NC. Link to comment
bish0p2004 Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 Been officially broken up for 7 - 8 months and now I'm officially back to NC after 3 days. Longest I've gone was 5 weeks but she would always check up on me over Facebook and I'd respond. I recently decided to go %100 NC (erase her completely) as I thought I had moved on mentally and emotionally, but I saw her over the weekend and I started thinking about her even more. So, I deleted my FB, changed my password to something impossible to remember and now she has no way to contact me unless she comes to where I live, which is highly unlikely since she knows I'm dating someone else. I would love to be friends with her, but I still can't handle it for some reason. Link to comment
dazed_83 Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 almost 5 months, until SHE contacted me on Monday. Been broken for almost 8 months now, after 6 years together. I still class myself as being NC with her, it was her that broke it not me (although i did respond). Link to comment
waveseer Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 I haven't been tempted to contact my ex for I don't know exactly how long. I have no more feelings for him of any kind. If I saw him on the street he would look like every other stranger to me. Link to comment
Live-N-Learn Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 28 days. She broke NC 3 times last week with meaningless words. I'm getting better everyday, though I still think about her too much. At least the worst of the pain is over. Link to comment
JonasWaingaro Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 I stopped my NC after 1month, hers continues to this day ~10months. Though I guess it's more 'ignoring' me forever rather then NC. Kinda sucks. I stopped trying long ago as it was completely pointless. However, I'd respond if contacted as I'm long done with NC. /shrug Link to comment
J1535 Posted May 14, 2010 Share Posted May 14, 2010 We broke up in January and dragged it out until now. tried to fix things twice, she backed out both times. NC started after our final talk on the phone last night. This is going to be tough but it's time to move on for good. Link to comment
Little lady Posted May 14, 2010 Author Share Posted May 14, 2010 You people are doing great! & This is a great support forum! Link to comment
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