nanana Posted May 3, 2010 Share Posted May 3, 2010 ... And I'm letting it ruin my life. My ex dumped me 2 months ago saying he doesn't feel like he can handle a relationship. We were together 2 and a half years, I'm 21, he's 22. I can understand him wanting to be single after being committed so long, we're both young. He said things like "none of my mates are still with their first girlfriends" and blah blah blah. Bit of a case of GIGS I think... Except the grass probably was greener. The night we broke up, he was hugging me, kissing me, telling me he wished I realised how much he loved me, said he hadn't lost any feelings for me. I was really confused. A few days later my dad had an operation, it went pretty badly and ended up with my dad being in hospital for just over two more weeks. It was a rough time for my and I ended up staying in regular contact with my ex. I think this annoyed him but I just couldn't stick to NC. He still insisted he loved me and that we could meet in a few weeks. 2 weeks after the break-up I went NC for about 3 weeks then contacted for that meet-up. Got ignored. I've sent a couple more messages since, been ignored each time. I don't get why he said we could meet up if he was going to ignore me at the time. And him ignoring me just makes me feel like I'm hated. i'm giving myself nightmares and extreme headaches trying to figure out how he went from telling me he loved me so much to now ignoring me and wanting nothing to do with me. I'm even drawing the conclusion that maybe he thinks I was lying about my dad?! I don't know. I'm ruining my life analysing this. He said he'd always love me, and I think I told myself he'd always be there for me. The worst part of this is, he treated me like CRAP when we were together. I should be thinking good riddance. But I will always love him, and he said he would too. I begged him not to say that and to be blunt but he still insisted he loves me. Friends keep telling me he's just doing it to move on, and that he probably misses me but knows we can't be together because a break-up is the for the best. He even said himself he can't keep being cruel to me... Sorry for the essay, I've been crying all day for the first time in a month. Think it was time to vent... Is it pretty common for dumpers to ignore the dumpee even if they still love them? Or is it possible he just hates me now? Link to comment
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