age to get married/engaged

[babybear]

JUst curious... what age did/do people on here feel the age was when they were emotionally mature enough and ready to get engaged/married? I know everyone is different so would love to hear as many replies as poss

 

Thanks.

[newwave]

Seriously, around 35. By then I was completely done with school (college, and graduate school) and had settled into a career. Before that I would have made a lousy wife. In fact in my 20's I was dead set on never marrying and was all out to have fun. I was proposed to then but said no. The problem though is the longer you wait, the harder it is to find people.

[DN]

25 - my wife was 24.

[LAYAAN]

right age to get married is when you are emotionally and financially prepared to take adversity on. If your marriage fails, can you take it on financially? That is the right age to marry.

[Hermes]

I have to largely agree with this, Tinu

 

right age to get married is when you are emotionally and financially prepared to take adversity on

 

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[Fionnuala]

I'll be 25 in about a month, and I don't think I'm quite ready yet. I'd say I will be in a year or two.

[sophie274]

I'm turning 23 fairly soon, and I think that if I were to meet someone within the next year, and he turned out to be the one for me, I would feel ready to get engaged after dating for 2 or 3 years. I'm single now, so this is all hypothetical, but, personally, I don't feel that I need to wait until after 30 to think about getting married. In terms of financial stability, I would not marry someone if we were BOTH in school, or if money were tight enough that we were starving at the end of the month, but anything from "comfortable" and up would be fine.

[hers]

i was "engaged" at 17. someone that young has no business being engaged! i think i was way too young...i had no idea about life adn the world around me and what it took to make it through difficult things with a partner next to you. i've been in a few serious relationships since then (never did get married, luckily), and i still didn't think i was ready...i always had a reason for not marrying any of them. like i always knew inside that i coulnd't.

 

i'm 27 now adn dating the guy of my dreams adn i'm so so ready for this...like sophie said, if they're the one for you, go for it. but i know that deep down, the guys before this one weren't it...it's just something i feel with the guyi'm with now.

 

in terms of financial stability, i have a hunch i'll always be broke, b/c i'm the type of person who doesn't need financial stability to feel successful or happy in life. i never worry about money so it's not really something i consider when looking at marriage.

[jengh]

Well, my boyfriend and I have been together for a year, but I still don't feel "ready" to get married yet for a large number of reasons. I'd say in a couple years though.

[Maveric]

For me I would say late 20s was when I felt mature enough to marry, which really was just a couple of years ago.

[_Asti_]

Its hard to pinpoint a specific age, and for me I'd say its mostly comes down to maturity, life stage and finances.

 

I feel 100% ready for the next step in my relationship, and will be 25 when I get married and my guy will be 30. He finally feels ready in his life and in our relationship for that next step.

 

Do I think its a magic number that suddenly makes me ready? No. Its the fact that I am in a long term relationship with someone I want to spend my life with, and we are in a position in our relationship and in our lives that makes me ready.

[waveseer]

Knowing myself like I do now I'll be ready at about 100 years old.

[Firiel]

I believe I'm ready right now, as I am currently engaged. But for me, it wasn't really about the age... it was about the person. If I was dating someone besides my fiance right now, I wouldn't feel ready to get married at all.

[Notreadyet87]

I don't that there is a perfect age, or the PERFECT formula that will work for everyone. It really depends on where a person is at in their relationship, the willingness to commit to someone in really LARGE levels, and so on. However the younger one is when they married, according to stats, the more likely it isn't going to work. Why that is--I'm not sure. It probably is due to a variety of reasons. But for most people typically the best age is an age at which you are financially stable, have a career, have been dating long enough to KNOW that it's time for the set, with the same goals and vision.

I'm 23 and I've been with my guy for a while, but I'm not in the position to get married. He isn't either. I would say that in a few years, if my career is in a better place, and if I feel as if I'm ready to commit to that level then I'll be ready for marriage.

But for myself I personally wouldn't marry someone under the age of 25 and not just because of the stats, but because of the maturity and the financial capabilities (in my opinion) of most young people that are under age 25 isn't with what I'd want for my marriage.

To some people being financially ready is not a "must" especially for those couples that don't see money as huge influence, or who know that more than likely due to their nature of their occupations they will probably be financially unstable no matter when they get married. Maturity is also relative.

[metrogirl]

I got married at 17 and that ended when I was 22.

 

Here I am at almost 40 and I'm just now feeling the desire to want to get married again.

[Seymore]

I'm ready. Women aren't ready for me, however

 

From what I've read, chance of divorce is highest when marrying at age 24 or under. That's statistics though, so take it as you will.

[epicproportion]

I was engaged when I was 21 but it all fell apart rather quickly.

I am currently 25 and now feel I am actually ready. I don't think there is a certain age so much as a point in your life when you are ready.

[AutumnBreeze49]

My husband and I started dating when we were 16. He proposed when we were 18, 3 weeks before we moved together out of state for college. We got married when we were 20. We are now 27, and it has been the most beautiful 7 years I could ask for! Marriage is hard work, but you have to go into it as partners, as a team. And you have to learn compromise, trust, acceptance... You have to learn to love fully and unconditionally. I don't have a single regret for settling down at such a young age, I am truly where I am meant to be in life. But, I also don't think marriage is for everyone, and it is definitely not something to be taken lightly. Marriage isn't disposable, yet so many people treat it like it is. There is no set age for when you should get married, you have to be mentally, spiritually, financially and emotionally ready to connect to one person for the rest of your life!

[Jd1983]

I'm turning 27 this year, and I'm definitely ready to get married now.

 

I don't think there's really a set age on when you should get married. If you truly feel as though you found the right person, then that's all the matters.

 

Like they say, age is just a number.

[dragon lady]

There's something about the term "marriage" that gives me a depressed feeling. Maybe it's because I hear and read so much negativity about it on a daily basis. Maybe it's because so few first marriages in my family have worked out and those that have are riddled with infidelity. My entire adult family are cynical about the institution and it has trickled down to all of us kids.

 

I guess I see myself living in a marriage-like relationship, but not necessarily having a ceremony. The idea that getting married means forever seems to be too high pressure. I'd rather just enjoy the time I was having with someone and if it eventually ended, it wouldn't be much different to the other thousands of people who get divorced each year. It just wouldn't have the same stigma attached to it. The divorced label can be quite cruel and there's a high chance that it would come to that. Not that I'd want it to, but there's no point in assuming that I'm any different to other people because my relationship is more special or whatever.

 

As for when, I'd say I'm ready to settle down with someone now. I'm living with my boyfriend now and I see this as a test for whether we can handle it. If not, then I guess I'll be older than this.

[Citlali]

Whenever you are mature enough to handle the emotional, financial, social, etc. aspects of it all. That can be anywhere from 23 to 40. It depends on the person and his or her relationship. I got engaged last year when I was 24. I felt ready to handle that level of commitment and responsibility. However, I am not yet ready to get married, definitely not until I finish law school and then grad school after that.