laesn Posted May 2, 2010 Share Posted May 2, 2010 Over the past five or so years every girl i have liked has not liked me. I have been "friend zoned" every time. Now I feel like I might be in the same place with the most recent girl I like. I heard today, third hand from someone who may not be a reliable source that, "if you are interested in pursuing her she will not want to hang with you" but if it isnt reliable I still want to know what I can do that isn't to obvious that I am "pursuing her" but will build attraction if she is in any way still open to a relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GoneCrazy Posted May 2, 2010 Share Posted May 2, 2010 Its called reality sorry to break it to you, and i know alot of other peopel will tell you differntly, but unless you got that look or that bad boy you won't her or them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eclipse11 Posted May 2, 2010 Share Posted May 2, 2010 I would just try being friendly, like a friend to her at first and see what vibes you pick up...sneaky huh! Sometimes I think this is the best way though... Also you wont' look foolish that way either... Just my advice, don't know if others would agree though! Eclipse x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
easyguy Posted May 2, 2010 Share Posted May 2, 2010 Be happy with who you are, love yourself, and be yourself, and everything will fall into place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
easyguy Posted May 2, 2010 Share Posted May 2, 2010 And learn how to flirt if that is your weakness. Attraction is part looks (what makes YOU look good), part personality/charm, part timing, and part the reality of things (sometimes it just doesn't matter what you do). But if you can't be yourself, then it's not worth it in my opinion. Seduction, perhaps, but not a quality relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Partime_Judas Posted May 2, 2010 Share Posted May 2, 2010 Kind of a personal question, but how are you pursuing these women? Approach means a lot. Being a nice guy is cool, but it doesn't just do the work for you. It can sometimes come off as noncommital or false, or just a passing politeness between friends. I guess it all really comes down to the original question of approach, one way or another, theirs or yours. So if it wouldn't be terribly impolite of me to ask, mind indulging a little bit? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stingray Posted May 3, 2010 Share Posted May 3, 2010 Kind of a personal question, but how are you pursuing these women? Approach means a lot. Being a nice guy is cool, but it doesn't just do the work for you. It can sometimes come off as noncommital or false, or just a passing politeness between friends. I guess it all really comes down to the original question of approach, one way or another, theirs or yours. So if it wouldn't be terribly impolite of me to ask, mind indulging a little bit? What sort of approach do you recommend out of curiosity? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nomadic Intent Posted May 3, 2010 Share Posted May 3, 2010 Hey, i too play the 'nice guy' a lot. But through a *LOT* of mistakes and never getting with the one i want, i've learnt to recalibrate my approach. My default is "nice guy". After all, i have made friends, male and female with it. But with the girl I'm interested in? Tease. Make fun of her hair, or her profession. Anything. Ignore her completely if you must. I once told a cute caterer her lemon tarts were horrible, and with a smile warned everybody to stay away. We ended up on a few dates. NOthing is working for you, so recalibrate your approaches and find what method works FOR YOU. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Go Habs Go Posted May 3, 2010 Share Posted May 3, 2010 Its called reality sorry to break it to you, and i know alot of other peopel will tell you differntly, but unless you got that look or that bad boy you won't her or them. Total rubbish. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stingray Posted May 3, 2010 Share Posted May 3, 2010 Total rubbish. I don't think it is entirely untrue! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Go Habs Go Posted May 3, 2010 Share Posted May 3, 2010 I don't think it is entirely untrue! I'm not a bad boy and I never had a problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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