Getting the belongings back...??

[asthesparrow]

I didn't know where to post this, as I am over the healing thing... Sorry!

 

So I'm moving back to my hometown where my ex is in about a week... I haven't spoken to him since I broke up with him however long ago, nor has he contacted me.

Actually, I sent him a text about a week after I broke it off saying: "Could you please leave my things at (my sister who lives near him)'s house, she'll mail it all to me"

 

He never did that... maybe he threw it all out?? It's only been about 2 months maybe less..

 

Anyway, things of mine include 3 limited edition prints by my favourite artists (one was bought by him though so..), an antique mirror I cherish, some clothing, books...

 

I haven't missed that stuff all too much for the couple months, I'm not very materialistic, but I hate to think he's purposely keeping it?

Would he be doing that? Or maybe he threw it out? Or wanted it for himself?

 

Should I drop it? Thanks

[eggplant47]

Who knows what he's actually done with it... maybe he even has every intention of returning it & has just been lazy.

 

If you don't wish to break NC, would your sister maybe be willing to call and inquire about picking up a few of the more sentimental things for you?

[asthesparrow]

Who knows what he's actually done with it... maybe he even has every intention of returning it & has just been lazy.

 

If you don't wish to break NC, would your sister maybe be willing to call and inquire about picking up a few of the more sentimental things for you?

 

I'm actually afraid of any contact with him at all, whether it be me personally or a family member... I guess I still don't forgive him for the abuse, and the emotional affects all that had on me.

I actually would rather give up some of my belongings than me or anyone I know have to speak to him RE: me or my stuff He's really not worth knowing or wasting breath on....

 

I guess I'll just let it go... I'm sure he's just thrown it all out because he moved house after we broke up.

 

EDIT: Also I don't want him to think I am contacting him 2 months down the track just to 'reach out'... I really just want the belongings that actually have irreplacable value back...

[eggplant47]

I'm actually afraid of any contact with him at all, whether it be me personally or a family member... I guess I still don't forgive him for the abuse, and the emotional affects all that had on me.

I actually would rather give up some of my belongings than me or anyone I know have to speak to him RE: me or my stuff He's really not worth knowing or wasting breath on....

 

I guess I'll just let it go... I'm sure he's just thrown it all out because he moved house after we broke up.

 

EDIT: Also I don't want him to think I am contacting him 2 months down the track just to 'reach out'... I really just want the belongings that actually have irreplacable value back...

 

That's a shame:sad: But you are probably right that it is worth the loss of a few material items to be rid of this guy!