Le MX5 Posted April 29, 2010 Share Posted April 29, 2010 The girl I like likes me back, so today I decided to ask her out. She tells me she's not ready for a boyfriend. How the hell is she not ready for one if she likes me..? Is "I'm not ready for a boyfriend" girl talk for "You're an ugly fag, never talk to me again"? And now she needs more time to think... Can someone help me decipher this girl code, lol? Link to comment
Pinnsvini Posted April 29, 2010 Share Posted April 29, 2010 Are you sure she likes you back? Sounds a bit like a kind way of letting you down in my opinion. Link to comment
nutbrownhare Posted April 29, 2010 Share Posted April 29, 2010 I'm guessing she's a similar age to you. So she may well be feeling shy, embarrassed, inexperienced ... any number of things. I'm guessing that 'I'm not ready for a boyfriend' means that she isn't ready for a boyfriend. I've checked that sentence carefully, and don't see any trace of either 'ugly fag' or 'never talk to me again' However, if you really want a girlfriend then it would probably be better to find someone else ... Link to comment
Le MX5 Posted April 29, 2010 Author Share Posted April 29, 2010 After she asked me for more time to think, she called me, and said yes. Though her annoying friend would have to come on dates, because her parents don't want her dating, but it's better than than being rejected in girl code, lol. Link to comment
bridget Posted April 29, 2010 Share Posted April 29, 2010 Being about 20 years older than you, if I tell a bloke I'm not ready for a boyfriend then yes, that might be code for not being interested. However, seeings as you are 13...and assuming the girl in question is too...then maybe she's genuinely not ready for a boyfriend?!!!! We all grow up at different rates, my first boyfriend wasn't until I was 17! I don't think I would have even contemplated one at 13 and would have run in the opposite direction - wouldn't have meant he was ugly! Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted April 30, 2010 Share Posted April 30, 2010 After she asked me for more time to think, she called me, and said yes. Though her annoying friend would have to come on dates, because her parents don't want her dating, but it's better than than being rejected in girl code, lol. That's the answer. She likes you but she's not allowed to date at her age. I also wasn't allowed to date until late high school. Link to comment
jengh Posted April 30, 2010 Share Posted April 30, 2010 I agree--it was probably her parents. Alright, here's some sage advice from someone 10 years older (haha)... I've told a lot of guys I like them but I'm not ready for a boyfriend. Sometimes it means I'm not interested, sometimes it REALLY actually means I just don't want a boyfriend. In her case, I think her parents just thought she's too young. Group dates are fun! Link to comment
Le MX5 Posted April 30, 2010 Author Share Posted April 30, 2010 Being about 20 years older than you, if I tell a bloke I'm not ready for a boyfriend then yes, that might be code for not being interested. However, seeings as you are 13...and assuming the girl in question is too...then maybe she's genuinely not ready for a boyfriend?!!!! We all grow up at different rates, my first boyfriend wasn't until I was 17! I don't think I would have even contemplated one at 13 and would have run in the opposite direction - wouldn't have meant he was ugly! She's 15, she's had boyfriends before, but, she said yes, even though I'm still pondering the whole "I'm not ready" thing Link to comment
jengh Posted April 30, 2010 Share Posted April 30, 2010 She's 15, she's had boyfriends before, but, she said yes, even though I'm still pondering the whole "I'm not ready" thing If she's had boyfriends before... 1- Were any recent? Is she still going through a bad breakup? 2- Is it possible she just wants to enjoy high school single, at least for right now? If she said yes though, put it out of your mind for now. Link to comment
Le MX5 Posted April 30, 2010 Author Share Posted April 30, 2010 I agree--it was probably her parents. Alright, here's some sage advice from someone 10 years older (haha)... I've told a lot of guys I like them but I'm not ready for a boyfriend. Sometimes it means I'm not interested, sometimes it REALLY actually means I just don't want a boyfriend. In her case, I think her parents just thought she's too young. Group dates are fun! Not when the other person is an annoying control freak. Tatiana doesn't even like her at all. Link to comment
Le MX5 Posted April 30, 2010 Author Share Posted April 30, 2010 If she's had boyfriends before... 1- Were any recent? Is she still going through a bad breakup? 2- Is it possible she just wants to enjoy high school single, at least for right now? If she said yes though, put it out of your mind for now. 1. Half a month ago I think, the dude cheated on her, IIRC. 2. We're not in high school yet Link to comment
jengh Posted April 30, 2010 Share Posted April 30, 2010 1. Half a month ago I think, the dude cheated on her, IIRC. 2. We're not in high school yet She's 15 and not in high school? Oh, okay then haha sorry. Half a month is a VERY short amount of time so she's probably still trying to get over the douche who cheated on her. She may be finding it hard to trust boys at the moment. Link to comment
Le MX5 Posted April 30, 2010 Author Share Posted April 30, 2010 She's 15 and not in high school? Oh, okay then haha sorry. Half a month is a VERY short amount of time so she's probably still trying to get over the douche who cheated on her. She may be finding it hard to trust boys at the moment. The whole 15 and not in high school is some complicated deal which I know nothing about, lol. Link to comment
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