what kinky things would you do?

[greywolf]

I have this huge fear that if my bf and I broke up, which is likely, I might never find someone sexually compatible with me again.

 

So I was just wondering, what weird, twisted things are you ok with doing?

For example, strap-on sex, consensual non-consent (rape play), bondage, D/s, S&M?

 

Besides my bf, I only know of one other person in real life that's ok with this stuff, and she's my cousin. =/

 

Men and women can both answer.

[Taikero]

Not really sure that strap-on sex applies to a heterosexual relationship, so other than that...I'm open to all of those you listed.

 

I don't really want to do anything that involves any form of defecation. That is just foul to me and not a turn on.

 

I'm not particularly interested in a threesome, swinging, or other group sex for various reasons.

 

Really as long as it's not excessively gross or a health hazard, I'm probably okay with it so long as it's discussed beforehand if it's entirely new to us. I have some limits but not that many.

 

Oh, and I could easily have sex 7-14+ times per week, assuming the sex is good.

[Catdancer]

I will do everything except animals, kids and poop.

[Lady Rashomon]

I will do everything except animals, kids and poop.

 

This.

 

And sorry for TMI, but go ahead and add vomit to the list.

[HouseKitten]

I will do everything except animals, kids and poop.

 

Ditto

 

To be fair, I've only been with one guy who was heavily into bondage and domination, the rest were just turned on by a little kink. This one guy though, loved throwing me around, tying me up, blindfolding, fisting, spitting on me, etc etc. He was very much into pseudo-slavery non-consensual stuff.

 

If it's not going to cause me loads of pain then I'm pretty happy to try anything.

[Brownstone322]

First of all, greywolf, you and I are completely compatible sexually, so have no fear of ending up alone and unsatisfied.

 

I've never had a list of wills and won'ts (although I'll echo the things listed above), but I've always had a "whatever she'll do, I'll do" philosophy. I've yet to have a chick suggest anything that I wouldn't be willing to deliver.

 

'Course I've never hung with Ms. greywolf, either.

[greywolf]

Not really sure that strap-on sex applies to a heterosexual relationship

 

uhh... yes it does...

[rosephase]

Go here : link removed

 

Make an account, look for people near you. People are kinky everywhere. And fetlife is just full of people who are out about being kinky.

 

Kink isn't rare. I think it's more normal then not having any kinks.

 

In seattle where I live there is this: link removed

 

It used to be called the Wet Spot. 5 years ago when I joined I was somewhere around the 8,000 member and now it's well over 10,000. And that is just the Seattle area and people who want to play publicly and meet people who they know are kinky.

[greywolf]

I do have an account at fetlife. I've been thinking about going to a munch, but most of the members seem to be in their 30's or older. There's not a lot of people my age, it seems. =/

[rosephase]

I do have an account at fetlife. I've been thinking about going to a munch, but most of the members seem to be in their 30's or older. There's not a lot of people my age, it seems. =/

 

If you are looking for a different partner why not ditch the boyfriend first. There are plenty of people in there 20's who are kinky. I'm 25. But now your just running into the issue of dating. Yes, there are a ton of people out there, but it turns out most of us are somewhat picky. You want someone around your age who is kinky (not to mention all the other things you want) that takes time. You're not going to poke around on fetlife and find him.

 

Also remember that a lot of straight laced people are really kinky. You can find someone you like in your real life and then bring up the idea of kink. A lot of partners are open to trying new things.

[greywolf]

If you are looking for a different partner why not ditch the boyfriend first. There are plenty of people in there 20's who are kinky. I'm 25. But now your just running into the issue of dating. Yes, there are a ton of people out there, but it turns out most of us are somewhat picky. You want someone around your age who is kinky (not to mention all the other things you want) that takes time. You're not going to poke around on fetlife and find him.

 

Also remember that a lot of straight laced people are really kinky. You can find someone you like in your real life and then bring up the idea of kink. A lot of partners are open to trying new things.

 

No no, I'm not. I just wonder how it'll be if I ever start dating again.

 

Now that you mention it, my bf wasn't that kinky when we first started talking, and I remember some stuff used to make him uncomfortable. That has changed. So that is pretty normal?

[itsallgrand]

I like creativity in the bedroom and will try most things once. But to me, that is a bit different than being "into kink". It's not what I would choose for my bread n' butter.

 

That's not to say there aren't plenty out there who do prefer kink as their bread n' butter. It depends what turns someone on - for me, the adventurousness is fun but I wouldn't be compatible with someone who needed it to be satisfied.

 

I've always thought Martha Stewart to be a person who would be a serious Kink Girl. lol. How could it be otherwise.

[UserLain]

I do have an account at fetlife. I've been thinking about going to a munch, but most of the members seem to be in their 30's or older. There's not a lot of people my age, it seems. =/

 

Well I'm not sure how old you are. Thought maybe mid 20's, 24 maybe. But people in their early 30's aren't as different than you then you'd think. You won't find that much of that age gap feeling around them i think. Older ages probably more so, but you can probably find people you feel on-the-level with.

[Taikero]

Also remember that a lot of straight laced people are really kinky. You can find someone you like in your real life and then bring up the idea of kink. A lot of partners are open to trying new things.

 

By looking at me or even talking to me in casual conversation, you would have absolutely no idea I am a highly sexual person, much less how open I am to things, so I second this. I am a very laid back, socially relaxed person so I don't come off as basically horny 24/7. You just never know about people when it comes to sex.

[UserLain]

Interesting site btw, (Fetlife). I'm gonna check it out.

[greywolf]

Well I'm not sure how old you are. Thought maybe mid 20's, 24 maybe. But people in their early 30's aren't as different than you then you'd think. You won't find that much of that age gap feeling around them i think. Older ages probably more so, but you can probably find people you feel on-the-level with.

 

It's not about the age gap. It's a life experience gap. I'm still going to school and live with my parents. I'm not independent or have a career.

[greywolf]

Okay, maybe I should add I'm not all that open to that, even knowing the implications of prostate manipulation.

 

Why not? =/

[UserLain]

It's not about the age gap. It's a life experience gap. I'm still going to school and live with my parents. I'm not independent or have a career.

 

Hm, well I'm not sure what people in a group like that get together for. If people are taken I guess it wouldn't have much to do with meeting partners. If it's about orgies I don't think independence and career really matter lol.

If it's just about being amongst like-minds for the sense of community then I can see that difference in experiences mattering, But also not mattering, ya know? You're not there to relate on work life after all. I'm not saying you should feel comfortable or be interested if you're not. Just that, well if it's about connecting about a shared sexual lifestyle, that's what it's about. You don't need to relate in every way. But then again I've never been to one of these things or am really even familiar with such a community so I don't know. If you don't feel like you'd want to be there, it makes sense. I kinda understand wanting to be around people you feel are your peers, instead of not

[Taikero]

Why not? =/

 

Because I can already in some ways manipulate my prostate during masturbation without anal penetration, and beyond that I would not be able to get past the thought that I was being raped by some guy (since I'm not into homosexuality to begin with, it would have to be rape for this to occur), even if I knew it was you.

 

I could maybe handle some light finger play in that area, but a -shaped object attached to a human body? It's just something I would not find palatable due to my orientation. It would feel absolutely wrong to me, and not in a good way, and it would all be psychological. I don't know how I could possibly get through that, even if I wanted to.

[rosephase]

No no, I'm not. I just wonder how it'll be if I ever start dating again.

 

Now that you mention it, my bf wasn't that kinky when we first started talking, and I remember some stuff used to make him uncomfortable. That has changed. So that is pretty normal?

 

Yes, it's pretty normal. A lot of people find kink through there kinky partners. Also your a female. And to be honest more guys are going to open to trying something new and sexual if it means they get to be sexual with you.

 

For men who want kinky women I think it's a little bit harder. But not much.

[Martin1]

Porbably first time that I see a girl being afraid of not getting another man as kinky as she would like him lol

 

At least I would do anything my lady brings up even if I'm not into it.

If you wonder why.. Seeing her enyjoying something is just a very huge turn on. And I doubt I'm the only one thinking that way.

Dildo up my backdoor, sure.. and if it makes her soak the sheets she can try it with 2 too

[greywolf]

Because I can already in some ways manipulate my prostate during masturbation without anal penetration, and beyond that I would not be able to get past the thought that I was being raped by some guy (since I'm not into homosexuality to begin with, it would have to be rape for this to occur), even if I knew it was you.

 

I could maybe handle some light finger play in that area, but a -shaped object attached to a human body? It's just something I would not find palatable due to my orientation. It would feel absolutely wrong to me, and not in a good way, and it would all be psychological. I don't know how I could possibly get through that, even if I wanted to.

 

Does that mean you wouldn't be up for feminization/sissification either? I'm not that into it, but I think it's fun once in awhile.

[greywolf]

Yes, it's pretty normal. A lot of people find kink through there kinky partners. Also your a female. And to be honest more guys are going to open to trying something new and sexual if it means they get to be sexual with you.

 

For men who want kinky women I think it's a little bit harder. But not much.

 

oh ok. That's a relief.

[Taikero]

Does that mean you wouldn't be up for feminization/sissification either? I'm not that into it, but I think it's fun once in awhile.

 

I don't generally feel the need to dress or act like a woman, but I would give it a shot to see if it's something that would be fun to incorporate on occasion.

[IphigeniaSaysHi]

I really think you'll attract (and be attracted to) the kind of men or women who are open to those things pretty much all your life. It isn't for certain, but I don't think you'd like the other personality traits of someone who was completely opposed to any sort of experimentation.