cross dressers?

[boowant]

Ok i have a question about this, but dont get me wrong i have no prob with cd's (bein my bf is 1) anyway i have always wondered why a man wants to dress and be teated like a women? Some (my b/f 2) wanna have sex with a transexual but not with a man.. I dont care about all of this w/ my b/f i was just wonderin what others (cd's please respond) thought about it 2!

[IphigeniaSaysHi]

Well, simply put, sexuality and gender identity fall along a continuum and there are many different ways people can identify themselves. It is believed that people are born that way, and the way they were raised influences how they go about their life, given their gender identity and sexual preferences.

 

It is hard to say exactly why your boyfriend feels the way he does, but I suggest you have a conversation with him about it. Maybe he will open up to you about his feelings and give you clarity on the subject.

 

I am left to wonder, however, if his wanting to sleep with a transsexual somehow hinders your relationship? Are you in an open relationship or is he actively looking for someone to sleep with?

[FathomFear]

"Male" and "Female" are sexes. "Man" and "Woman" are genders.

 

Gender is typically considered to be a "performance". Any gender can be "played" by any sex. Some males prefer playing the gender of woman, and some females prefer playing the gender of a man.

[Cognitive_Canine]

I have heard that cross dressing has little to do with sexual attraction and more to do with the fact that men who like the idea of giving up the 'control and responsibility of being a man'. I don't think it's weird at all.

 

I would talk to your boyfriend and find his personal reasons for why he likes it. You could really learn a lot about each other.

[boowant]

Well, simply put, sexuality and gender identity fall along a continuum and there are many different ways people can identify themselves. It is believed that people are born that way, and the way they were raised influences how they go about their life, given their gender identity and sexual preferences.

 

It is hard to say exactly why your boyfriend feels the way he does, but I suggest you have a conversation with him about it. Maybe he will open up to you about his feelings and give you clarity on the subject.

 

I am left to wonder, however, if his wanting to sleep with a transsexual somehow hinders your relationship? Are you in an open relationship or is he actively looking for someone to sleep with?

 

Thanx my b/f's mom made him wear girls pantys when he was growin up, so i understand what u e sayin!He told me very early on about all of this so we talk about it alot..I guess u can say its open but we dont sleep with other people but if we found a PASSABLE TS that we would go 4 it. Really i am the 1 looking for us! But i didnt really want advice on my relatonsip just wondern what others thought! Thanx

[IphigeniaSaysHi]

Does he seem confident and comfortable with his lifestlye, or do you get the sense he is ashamed or might want therapy? Sounds like he was kind of forced into it a bit!

[greywolf]

Thanx my b/f's mom made him wear girls pantys when he was growin up, so i understand what u e sayin!He told me very early on about all of this so we talk about it alot..I guess u can say its open but we dont sleep with other people but if we found a PASSABLE TS that we would go 4 it. Really i am the 1 looking for us! But i didnt really want advice on my relatonsip just wondern what others thought! Thanx

 

Why'd she do that?

[boowant]

I think it was just cuz she was a bi** he hassaid she always picked on him but i think that has little to do with it! He seems to be confiedent with me but has never told any1 else! u sit back and think about it why would any1 who does this tell any1, every1 jugdes people all the time, i would so keep it a secert 2! Like i said before this post was not really about him just really want to know what people thought about it and what other cd's felt.I have issues in my relationship but who doesnt but what he does really has nothin to do with this! Thanx

[Rangafro]

Cross dressing does not necessarily imply gender identity issues. It might just be a role-playing thing for him. Given that he is also into transsexuals, he is probably aroused by the gender-transgressive nature of it. I'm not cd but I can relate to that. Whatever it is, it sounds like you both have your heads screwed on right.

[boowant]

Cross dressing does not necessarily imply gender identity issues. It might just be a role-playing thing for him. Given that he is also into transsexuals, he is probably aroused by the gender-transgressive nature of it. I'm not cd but I can relate to that. Whatever it is, it sounds like you both have your heads screwed on right.

 

I do think it is a role-playing thing too! We role play alot! Thanks for saying we have our heads screwed on right, i think we do too!