Looks vs. Personality. (Trying to organize some thoughts on the issue)

[thathoopla]

And this is the guy with Heidi. He's worth around 50 million. What I want to know is, wasn't Heidi pretty rich herself when they met?

 

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Oh he's not bad looking. Maybe SHE went for his looks.

 

Why's it that to some people, it's AUTOMATICALLY about money or power or something other than looks/personality when the woman is with a guy whose considered "below" her in appearance?

[Gilroy]

Yea.. In general what I have learnt is - People tend to consider some one shallow (male or female) if they select a partner primarily based on one thing. So if a guy chooses a girl simply based on her looks he is called shallow. And if a girl selects a guy simply for his money then she is shallow. But usually though people are not that black or white. They fall in a grey area...

[thathoopla]

I think people are shallow if they treat someone according to the one thing that they want from them - looks, money, social connections, etc. If they treat the other person like that's the ONLY thing they are good for and forget about the rest of their humanness. Basically, if they're used and abused.

[Cognitive_Canine]

Oh he's not bad looking. Maybe SHE went for his looks.

 

Why's it that to some people, it's AUTOMATICALLY about money or power or something other than looks/personality when the woman is with a guy whose considered "below" her in appearance?

 

It's easier to blame your love problems on "well, people only want people with money/looks. I have none therefore I shouldn't bother putting myself out there."

 

rather than "the only thing preventing me from dating someone is me. "