LAYAAN Posted April 28, 2010 Share Posted April 28, 2010 I have been turned down repeatedly by men in marriage market. My close friends think that none of those men were marriage material anyways, so I should be thankful that they rejected me. I am really having a hard time letting go and finding peace in my heart. When I'm by myself, I tend to ask myself, "Why was I turned down?" I was never provided with a feedback. Its difficult to meet someone hoping that this time things will work. Very soon you find out that you are answering same set of Qs and getting judged. I tend to take this to heart. I tend to internalize my hurt. I tend to beat myself up, play the incidence over-n-over in my mind. Ask myself "What did I do wrong?" I'm afraid of going out with anyone due to the fear of getting rejected and having to deal with these feelings again. It has gotten to a point that if I even sense a guy may not be interested, I just get out of there, stop calling them suddenly, ignore their online profile, so I don't have to see their face again, so they don't get the upper hand, but I try to retain the power, the control. I don't like how I react just to rejection or the fear of being rejected. This is being very detrimental to my mental health. I want to change this and be a person that is confident no matter what. How do you handle repeated rejection and not let it get the best of you? Link to comment
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